Y'all, the only reason on I'm weighing on this nonsense is it's long past time that White people start using the word "White." It's a damn adjective, a modifier, if you will. And the reason I'm pushing for its use is that while White people may consider themselves the "default" here in America, they are most assuredly not.
When you hear the phrase "women and people of color" what the speaker really means and should say is "White women and POC." And the reason I'm bringing THAT is up should be obvious: White feminism is real, children, and we need to label it every time we see it because when White women are considered the "default", the things which only they say and do are considered the default for all women in America. So when Mayim I-benefit-from-White-privilege Bialik goes on a rant saying, "We shouldn't call women 'girls'", what she should be saying, "White women don't like being called 'girls'" and leave the rest of us out of it.
I'm not going to go into how Black women refer to one another as "my girl" or "girlfriend" and the affection and solidarity the term represents for us (Black men do it too with "my boy/my dude"). I will point out, though, that White women have often tried to get in on that culture and most are - rightly - rejected at once because the terms are not meant for casual use and we don't know you like that.
Furthermore, while While women complain about being seen as perpetual children, Black people in general are never really considered children, even when we are children. Nobody ever considers us fragile or innocent, too young to die or to work. Most White people - medical professionals included - don't even believe we feel pain. So this is not our conversation...much less our fight.
We've got bigger fish to fry.
Once again, White feminism stays doing the absolute bare minimum for society because feminism - literally "the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of equality of the sexes" - is not the main priority of White feminists. Wanting to be equal to White (and cissexual, heterosexual, able-bodied) men is not the same as advocating for women's equality, because the priority in that equation is race, not gender. That's why 53% of White women helped elect the Cheeto - they were hoping to maintain the benefits of being White. When push came to shove, the threat to their gender was not only deemed irrelevant, but a perfectly acceptable sacrifice for the continuation of White supremacy. They identified first with the aspect of them that incurs privilege (Whiteness), while taking the aspect which experiences oppression (being female), and throwing it under the bus.
What message do you think that sent to men, White men in particular?
|White feminist rants about the word "girl" are hardly different from|
White Power Barbie's mindless, pointless rant about
Colin Kaepernick and the goddamn flag
And this...ladies and gentlemen of the Bar, this is precisely why White women are often seen as children.
This consistent tendency to say one thing, do another, focus solely on their own benefit, and always play the victim is exactly why so many White women are not taken seriously by, well...anyone. It's why so many people consciously - 'cause there's nothing subconscious about it - see them as "girls". Why? Because grown women don't play victim.
Women are adults who've outgrown their personal fables. Women don't constantly want/take what other people create, because they're too busy trying to build something for themselves. Women don't cry to avoid responsibility. And even when there's no real benefit for them directly, women get up and do what must be done simply because it's the best course of action for everyone involved.
Just like with being called a "man", "woman" is a rank that's earned; there's a reason why indigenous societies implement rites of passage to mark transition from childhood to adulthood. There are certain behaviors and mindsets that are not appropriate for people who profess to be grown. And the only reason White women have been allowed to continue with those behaviors and mindsets, is that their White privilege affords them the luxury of doing so. But since all privilege and luxury comes at an expense, the price of getting to maintain childish behavior into one's adulthood is to forever be seen as a child.
And in typical fashion, White women don't want to be held accountable for that price.