5.29.2014

So about that guy from Reddit....

...'Cause y'all know we ain't gon let this slide.

I was going to post this sooner but then someone had to go on a killing spree while whining about how life was being so "unfair".  Well, here's the tale of another dude who whined about ish being unfair.
I'm seeing some parallels between Eliot and that guy on Reddit who convinced his 'fat' and 'unattractive' girlfriend to enter into an open relationship, then got sour when he couldn't get the hot women he wanted while she ended up having her pick of men. Dude felt that he was entitled to hot women, and that they'd all fall into his lap just by him existing/without putting in much if any work - much like Elliot. Also, much like Elliot, he couldn't understand why life was so unfair to him. Alas, where were the bevy of beautiful women chasing him a la an Axe commercial? ~ Leo Princess
For those of you who haven't gotten 'round to picking apart this story (most likely because of Elliot Rodger and for which the guy in this story is probably relieved that nobody's talking about him anymore), dude was dating "a big girl." Like, LP says, he felt he was missing out on "hot girls" (read: skinny girls), and though he claims his girlfriend was fulfilling him emotionally, he was feeling disconnected from her physically. So he demands - literally demands - an open relationship otherwise he wants to break up. It breaks his girlfriend's heart, makes her cry, but she acquiesces nonetheless.

But ah...turns out, karma has a hilarious sense of humor. Girlfriend starts gettin' it - dates, one-night stands, menfolk drooling over her pictures online and writing her naughty notes, while Boyfriend - the genius who set off this lovely chain of events - ain't gettin' shit. He posted his experience on Reddit asking for help on how to "close" his now very wide open relationship, but has since taken it down (gee, I wonder why).

Since M. Gibson has forever touted his love for big women, I thought of him immediately when I sent him a link to the story. And in classic M. Gibson style, he replied:
Dearest, do you watch The Big Bang Theory? I watch it religiously because I love the comedic timing and geeky wordplay. There’s a character named Sheldon, a super-genius in his own mind much like Wile E. Coyote. Sheldon has been the affection of his colleague Amy Fowler since season three. Amy is a comely sort of woman (in contrast to the other female leads). She’s a scientist in her own right and just as gifted as Sheldon. Her one failure (if you can call it that) is that she worships the ground he walks on and that’s fine with him. In Sheldon’s narcissistic mind its simply logical that she should be taken with him, however Sheldon feels no obligation to return her affection. He couldn’t give two shakes for her physically, yet he’s taken her undying devotion for granted, figuring she’s lucky to have him as no one else would want her. Now you would think such treatment would throw Amy into the arms of another man; as a matter of fact there was an episode where she was being courted by Stewart (the owner of a comic book store).

Turns out, Sheldon feels threatened by the relationship for he never thought anyone would be interested in Amy, banking on her devotion no matter how indifferently he treated her. Now there’s a new suitor for Amy, effectively robbing Sheldon of the attention he constantly received from her. Stewart saw the beauty in her and valued Amy as a person. Now all of a sudden Sheldon refers to Amy as “His” girlfriend and quickly moves to win her back. Hence it becomes quite clear Sheldon wants to have his cake and eat it too. Only when Amy is being courted by another man does he finally come to appreciate her.

From anonymous dude:
“I'm going to be honest and say I have no idea why a guy like that is interested in my girlfriend and not out with a hot girl. I had no idea my girlfriend would get this much attention and it makes me feel like shit. I now realise if it's not this guy, it's going to be another with his hands all over my girlfriend.”

And that’s the thing. Apparently she’s Hot to everyone else but him. She’s being loved- appreciated desired and sought after for who she is and that’s eating him up inside. This man lacks empathy for he only seems to care about how a relationship (any relationship) affects ‘Him’. So what does he do? He blackmails her emotionally- manipulating her into an arrangement she does not want, due in part to her low self-esteem. This self-centered wretch doesn’t give two-cents for how she feels, but only in fulfilling “His Own Needs.” His copious use of the pronouns, ME, I, and MY tell the whole story. I say good for her. There are plenty of men and I mean countless men who are into big girls (I wonder how he defines Big Girl), for their shapely legs and warm personalities. The fool simply doesn’t know what he had. She’s relishing in the attention and it serves him right. Very ironic that the very rules formulated specifically to benefit him sexually should be exploited to the fullest by her. Sounds fair and equitable to me.

Again from anonymous dude:
“I still loved my girlfriend and she fulfilled me emotionally,…”

No she didn't. If so there'd be no need to stray on his part. As it turns out, he didn’t (Agape) love her, as that takes more of a commitment that he was ready to give, nevertheless he only (Eros) loved her. Moreover, he was in love with idea of being (Agape) loved by her.

When my wife and I married we were both skinnier than we are now. As we’ve grown together we’ve “Expanded” together (so to speak), so I much prefer the ‘fuller’ woman she is now. She gets attention from men all the time, so I know she appreciates her beauty all the more. For me, there’s simply more to love and definitely more to appreciate in terms of tactile stimulation. Funny. but it does sound like something that was written as an article for Penthouse Magazine. Now forgive me if I missed this one, as I haven't dated in a very very long time. Im not up on the games many young peope play.
I'll just leave y'all with this (first four minutes or so):



*sniff*

19 comments:

  1. As I told Mié, I can’t get into her style of comedy (language) but I can appreciate the confidence she exudes. Her swagger, is irrefutable. Her flare, how she owns that stage- flaunting that figure about... Impressive. Likewise, when she loosed that burly thigh from under that gown, Bam! I was smitten. For all intents and purposes, Black women are the salt of the earth, and I have been blessed to know many in my life. Men of color don’t need no pale-skinned arbiter to tell us what we've known since there have been stars in the sky. Black is beautiful!

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    1. You gotta use past tense now, boo-boo. Miss Thang had to go and shed a bunch of unnecessary pounds and lay waste that which was Perfection.

      *sniff*

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    2. "You gotta use past tense now, boo-boo. Miss Thang had to go and shed a bunch of Unnecessary pounds and lay waste that which was Perfection.

      Gurl had it going on.
      "Bows..."

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  2. That guys is an idiot and a narcissist. Common sense should have told him that a woman interested in open relationships and noncommittal hook ups is going to get more opportunities than a heterosexual guy would.

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    1. For real. If this were the 20th Century, and a girl came sobbing that her boyfriend wanted an "open" relationship, we'd tell her to dump him.

      But this is 2014. And in this century, the rule is that when a man makes an idiotic request like this, go ahead and grant his wish before you dump him. That'll make the lesson muuuuuuch more memorable.

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  3. I don't think this guy was into love, at least not in a way of commitment. I think he was more into lust, more likely lusting for self affirmation that he is sexy, not lovable necessarily. I also don't think he expected his girl to have guys lining up to hook up with her. He thought that every other guy out there didn't find her attractive enough to sleep with. In the end, it backfired twice: once when there were no girls down for the sexcapades and twice when her girl got more play than he did. He expected the opposite to happen, but it blew up in his face.

    Guys like him are more into ego-boosting than finding love. He wanted women to come to him so they can have sex and thus, 'prove' that he's God's gift to women. If women were to come to him, that shows that they are irresistible to him. But alas, his ego was crushed into dust when no one approached him. He thought he was all that, but he clearly wasn't.

    I haven't read the article yet, but I will to get more insight into this.

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    1. "He wanted women to come to him so they can have sex and thus, 'prove' that he's God's gift to women. If women were to come to him, that shows that they are irresistible to him. But alas, his ego was crushed into dust when no one approached him. He thought he was all that, but he clearly wasn't."

      Very much like the antagonist in the Santa Barbara Shooting. The Reddit Dude has his ego crushed in a game of emotional extortion but appears no worse for wear. Befittingly, he reaps what he sows and it ends there. Elliot Rodger on the other hand, is beyond consolable. Once it becomes apparent hot white girls aren't drawn to him in droves he acts upon his rejection with deadly intent. Sowing the wind he reaps the whirlwind. These events notwithstanding, socially/mentally they're just a hair trigger apart.

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    2. No.. I think that he was in lust and they wonder why things didn't go the way he wanted?

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    3. "No.. I think that he was in lust and they wonder why things didn't go the way he wanted?"

      If your talking about Reddit Dude I believe I said as much:

      "No she didn't. If so there'd be no need to stray on his part. As it turns out, he didn’t (Agape) love her, as that takes more of a commitment that he was ready to give, nevertheless he only Eros (Lust) loved her. Moreover, he was in love with idea of being (Agape) loved by her."

      If we're talking about Elliot Rodger then yes, I'm sure that's part of it. I'm simply addressing the entitlement part. As one poster said, Elliot could have procured a hooker (for he had the means), but he felt Entitled to those particular women partly because he was half-white. At any time he wished he could have ceased being a virgin for a mere pittance. But yes, unrequited lust (Eros) certainly played a part in it.

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  4. "Amy into the arms of another man; as a matter of fact there was an episode where she was being courted by Stewart (the owner of a comic book store)."

    Please forgive me, it seems I misspelled one of the character's name. Its Stuart, Stuart Bloom.

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  5. Some people are just full of themselves. I guess these guys didint get that you cannot always have it your way. These guys don't live in the world. I just love it when people just throw unexpected curveballs for guys like thi,especially the Reddit guy who assumed that his girlfriend wouldn't be able to attract men because of her size

    What Elliot and the Reddit guy didnt get was how some people define attractive. Being attractive or sexy doesn't always mean you're small and/or pretty. I've seen guys hit on women who some may be physically questionable but at the end of the day internal sexiness overtakes physical sexiness. Its about what you find attractive, not what the world sees fit as being such .But according to them, its not suppose to be like that. Crazy!

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  6. Again, I haven't read the article yet, but I just had a thought. What if this guy did have women flocking towards him or he could get any woman he wanted, but this plan that went so wrong for him was a wake-up call in a sense that he was not a player, at least not anymore?

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    1. I recommend you read the article, because it provides the entire story in his own words. What's interesting is how the women online react to him once they find out his relationship becomes "open". He writes:

      All the women who seemed to be interested in me turned out to only want to flirt online and only wanted attention, and when I brought up meeting up with any of them I got rejected. The only women who wanted to at all meet me or go out with me I wasn't attracted to. I went out with one local girl from Fetlife just to give it a chance, because my own girlfriend had found so many dates/hookups, but I just couldn't bring myself to be attracted and nothing happened. I havn't been able to find anyone else who wants to sleep with me off the website either. Me and my girlfriend still date and sleep together of course, but besides that I'm completely dry. I don't think this is at all fair on me considering how many dates she's been on and I imagine how many guys she's fucked.

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    2. To reiterate:

      All the (Hot Blonde) women who seemed to be interested in me turned out to only want to flirt online and only wanted attention (turns out I rated well-below their standards), and when I brought up meeting up with any of them I got rejected (because I came off as creepy). The only women who wanted to at all meet me or go out with me I wasn't attracted to (by my reckoning you’re average run-of-the-mill types, not worthy of my time nor my consideration). I went out with one local girl (ugh, these local types) from Fetlife just to give it a chance, because my own girlfriend (that fat slob) had found so many dates/hookups, but I just couldn't bring myself to be attracted and nothing happened (I tried to put the moves on her but she wasn't receptive- pfft, her loss). I haven’t been able to find anyone else (hot blonde babe) who wants to sleep with me (allow me to treat her as an object, thereby validating my pompous sense of entitlement) off the website either. Me and my girlfriend (you know, the one I’m stuck with) still date and sleep together of course (just to get my rocks off you understand, I could care less about her), but besides that I'm completely dry (void of humanity/empathy). I don't think this is at all fair on “ME” (Am I not a good-looking, privileged white male?) considering how many dates she's been on (that slut) and I imagine how many guys she's fu_ked. (She ought to be ashamed of herself. That’s why I was dead-set against this open relationship thing in the first place).

      Least that’s what I think he said.

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  7. I think I should mention this couple is no longer together. I think I read on Jezebel that they parted ways after this fiasco.

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    1. Good for her!
      By the way I pray I didn't offend with the above interpretation.

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    2. Not at all. It was a perfectly translation into Elliot Rodger-speak.

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    3. Thank god that they did . His former girlfriend deserves better. Just goes to show this pompous jerk that look aren't everything. Just because a person has an imperfection doesn't mean that they can't get... in his case.... a man. I will guarantee you that if he dated the girl of his dreams, they may treat him the same identical way that guy thought about her

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