5.11.2014

Since I was told Mo'Nique needed her own post....

Always did love this woman's face.
Let's go back down Memory Lane, shall we?
If I recall correctly, this was after
Weight Loss Round One
Posting this simply because I need
this dress in my life STAT.
Aaaaaaaaand the new Mo'Nique.

20 comments:

  1. Had to double-take at the last one...( ̄へ ̄)

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    1. Hmmm, while doing a casual search I found it interesting that many articles that have to do with Mo'Nique seem to mainly use the photos of her after the first round of weight-loss (characterized by the hair down hairstyle) O.o

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    2. I said it below and will sell it again. You are not going to be sell anyone anything with her "skinny pic. She looks awful. Everything about her in that picture looks sad and defeated and frankly sickly.
      And like I also said, it's not like she can go head to head with Gabrielle Union or Nia Long DESPITE having lost a jaw-dropping amount of weight. She would still have to settle for being the fat, loud best friend. So I'd ask her "Sis, was it worth it? Has any of it been worth it?"

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    3. Ironically, in that top pic...none of the other women you mentioned hold a candle to her.

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  2. She seems to me like a very warm and loving person to be around.

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  3. I hope Lor joins us over here. I left a crumb to follow my comments to this thread (thanks @Ankhesen) I'm gonna help us go down Mo'Nique's OTHER memory lane. She admitted that her husband had "freedoms" that most married women are not happy with and it caused a big kerfuffle and I always felt it had to do with that idea that as a fat woman, she needed to be grateful for his love. She didn't say that, but I'm for one kind of tired of fake confident fat women who go on a diet b/c a man tells them too or b/c they think it will win them acceptance. B/c of how ppl view fat, anyone can say after the fact that they were sick and everyone says "of course" but I dislike how quickly they jump on the whole idea that they were really unhappy/fat is bad bandwagon.

    http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/gossip/mo-nique-hubby-allowed-cheat-loves-hairy-legs-interview-article-1.165155

    And in her own words...
    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/13/monique-weight-loss-efforts-open-marriage-video_n_3268834.html

    I feel like this needs to marinate here. Ppl have short memories. Don't tell me her weight loss was all about her health. It was about his critique of her size. And there is no way you aren't internalizing that criticism if your husband is sleeping with other women (who probably dont' look like you).

    I feel like we all need a double at the bar to attempt to dissect what is going on in Mo'Nique's head.

    No one can say that last picture is in any way the best look she's ever had. It's not the 2nd best look she's had. She still looked better at her heaviest than she does in that last shot. Who is going to put her on the air looking like THAT?

    It's interesting how ppl are very quick to forgive men's bullsh*t about this just b/c you are fat.

    I need to step away to form a more coherent post on all of the stuff that has come from her in the past few years.

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  4. She admitted that her husband had "freedoms" that most married women are not happy with and it caused a big kerfuffle and I always felt it had to do with that idea that as a fat woman, she needed to be grateful for his love. She didn't say that, but I'm for one kind of tired of fake confident fat women

    Bingo!!! I remembered this too and wondered why she'd ever agree to such a situation. And when he DID sleep with someone else, I recall that she was not happy. So, again...why did she agree to this?

    I feel like this needs to marinate here. Ppl have short memories. Don't tell me her weight loss was all about her health. It was about his critique of her size. And there is no way you aren't internalizing that criticism if your husband is sleeping with other women (who probably dont' look like you).

    Thank you. People most certainly do. I recall how being a big, proud woman was her comedic bread and butter until she married this man. And speaking of this man...what changed for him? I remember when Mo'Nique came to Charleston, WV and performed and she talked about how things started between them. This was back before she lost any weight. After being a friend of her family for years (her kids called him "Uncle"), he made a move on her one night. That's when she got pregnant with her twins.

    So what happened? Did he feel "trapped" because he knocked up a woman in the public eye? Or was he trying to pull a Kevin Federline? And if he found her attractive at her biggest, again...what changed?

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  5. Not that she had to settle for his crumbs, but I think she found a guy who wanted to come along for the ride and she PROBABLY had carried a torch for this trifling man for her entire life. She also acknowledged that SHE didn't step out of her marriage. That should tell ppl a lot. This isn't an open marriage. This is an emotionally abusive marriage where a woman thinks that the best she can do is tolerate a man who cheats on her b/c she isn't good enough, and who believes the sad and tired line "He's mine, you may have had him once but I got him all the time."
    Yeah, while he is paying for meals and hotel rooms and lord knows what else with YOUR credit cards. B/c he doesn't do anything. He is nobody.
    If you don't find fat women sexually attractive or are embarassed to be seen with one (b/c let's be honest, there are WAY more men that find it attractive than will admit it, b/c men never stop being 8 year olds in a lot of respects), then DON'T MARRY ONE. See, problem solved. You don't have to concern troll anyone over her health, you don't need to worry about your "boys" insulting your woman. And you don't have to cheat to prove that you are capable of getting "hot" women and have your fattie in check waiting for you at home with your dinner.

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    1. she PROBABLY had carried a torch for this trifling man for her entire life.

      She did say they've known each other since they were 14. He probably thought of her Big Mo, and was likely hella shocked when she became a success.

      Yeah, while he is paying for meals and hotel rooms and lord knows what else with YOUR credit cards. B/c he doesn't do anything. He is nobody.

      This really stings. He's the second husband of hers to be not "on her level", which, now that you bring this up, raises my eyebrow. At her biggest, Julia Pace Mitchell hooked her a wealthy businessman from a prominent family. Mo'Nique and her fabulous self couldn't do the same?

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    2. Some women regardless of money or self-esteem are made constantly to feel like shit about themselves because they are big. Especially when you are black and in Hollyweird

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    3. True. Was just seeing a discussion about "wife material" and it's meaning and the impact it has on women.

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  6. See, this is the Mo'Nique that I like. Sorry, but she is getting it here, and so are the other thick ladies here. http://www.spike.com/video-clips/b8b574/moniques-crazy-in-love
    http://www.freeonlinemovieonweb.com/watch.php?vid=31272600f
    There is no way I believe the lady in the last picture has the energy to do that. And don't tell me that there weren't plenty of men in that audience who wouldn't have wanted to take some of them home.
    Sorry, the quality on the last video is poor...couldn't find a better version. And for someone who rarely shows any kind of emotion, I feel as if you see a lot on Beyonce's own face as she watches this.

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    1. My favorite performance!!!!! LOVED watching her dance!

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    2. Are these two vids better?
      http://www.bet.com/video/betawards/2007/host-moments/monique-hosts-the-2007-bet-awards.html
      http://www.bet.com/video/betawards/2004/host-moments/host-monique-does.html

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    3. Yes, those are excellent quality. Thanks for finding them. I have to watch them every time I see the link.
      I love all of those dancers. Where will those talented thick ladies get to dance now that Mo'Nique has attempted to cross over?

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  7. Kinda late but here's a vid to go with the last pic: http://www.wifedup.com/monique-loses-80-pounds-continues-motivated/

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  8. It could be that this round of weight loss is too fast or too much. Being a larger person you can accumulate loose skin and getting hella tired if you're overworking yourself. A lot of weight loss adverts disguise the fact that people have loose skin after losing so much weight. You don't just wind up looking like an Angelina Jolie. Some people get surgery to remove the loose skin.

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    1. I'd say the issue is that she is a tall and naturally thick woman who has passed her body's ideal set point. The issue of loose skin varies from person to person. I've met ppl who look like they were never fat and never had to have surgery (which can leave pretty nasty scars on many), both ppl in the 100+ club who lost weight with surgery and without. You don't know which you'll be until you get there. I don't think her skin looks so loose. She just happens to look drawn, tired, old, and emaciated )without being skinny) in a way that isn't normal for a 40 something black woman.

      I mean, look at how big her head is. There is no surgery to make her head fit her body, which isn't even the kind of skinny that I think she is striving for. She had already gotten fit, looked great for her build, and now she is just in some no man's land looking like a scared cat.
      And all for some man that doesn't want her, never wanted her, and sleeps with other women.

      And that is the saddest part of this story.

      If your body is set to thick and you try to force it to skinny, what you see in that last picture is what you get.

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