"Before" and "After"
After discussing Mo'Nique's situation, I'm not surprised to run into this. Providence, not coincidence.
Taryn Brumfitt, an Australian photographer and founder of the Body Image Movement, is out to change the disproportionately negative way that people — particularly women — view their own bodies.
Her mission started in 2012, when Brumfitt's ongoing displeasure reached the point that she was considering plastic surgery — a breast lift and a tummy tuck, to be precise. Brumfitt changed her mind when she had an epiphany: How could she teach her daughter to love her own body if she couldn't do the same?
Instead, Brumfitt entered herself into a body building competition. "It was crazy," she notes in a video poster to the Kickstarter page for her new documentary, Embrace. "I did have the perfect body, or near enough. And you know what? Nothing changed. Nothing changed about how I felt about my body."
So she did something radical. She lost the intensely-toned physique she had so carefully created. Turning mainstream perception of female body confidence on its head, Brumfitt posted a "before and after" photo to Facebook last year, in which the "before" was Brumfitt looking tanned and toned during the body-building competition, and the "after" was a confident, smiling photo of her body after going through childbirth. It was the complete opposite of typical before and after photos, like the ones posted by the now-infamous "Fit Mom" from Facebook. (Source)
|My "excuse" is that I don't want to. How you like them apples?|
First, check out those comments. Right on cue, the menfolk come out wondering when she's heading back to gym. So for one...there's that.
Two, the article asks:
As Brumfitt told the Huffington Post, "Women are always being told to change or be different ... I mean really, women are such amazing and dynamic creatures can we please change the conversation from this bullsh*t to something with a little more substance?"No, honey. We can't change to the convo to something with more substance. And why? Because women are "amazing and dynamic creatures". How else will we be kept in check if our entire existence isn't boiled down to our age and looks?
A funny thing happens when female celebrities hit the red carpet: The world tends to forget that they are actual human beings, with feelings and everything.You don't have to be a celebrity to go through this type of bullshit; if you're a woman and breathing, you've been there. You get a degree or publish book or start a great career or win an award for being exemplary at something and all anyone wants to know is why you're single and/or not thin enough.
Such a fate befell comedian Sarah Millican at last year's BAFTA Awards, when the Internet viciously attacked her red carpet look for being "disastrous" and "nana"-like. At first, the cruel commentary stung. But rather than stew in silence, Millican has decided to call out her haters in a brilliant essay for Radio Times that pinpoints the absurdity of a woman, yet again, being attacked for her appearance at an event meant to celebrate her completely unrelated accomplishments.
... her experience reveals once again how distressingly common it is to judge women first and foremost on their appearance. Cate Blanchett similarly called out the red carpet camera for scanning her up and down at this year's SAG Awards, asking, "Do you do that to the guys?" And Gabourey Sidibe had to deal with some very nasty tweets about her Golden Globes dress in January, to which she posted the epic reply:
To people making mean comments about my GG pics, I mos def cried about it on that private jet on my way to my dream job last night. #JK
— Gabourey Sidibe (@GabbySidibe) January 13, 2014
(Translation: "I'm rich, bitch!")
My sister recently had a dating experience which got me thinking again about how women are magically expected to be good at a lot of things - the first and foremost being the maintenance of their looks - while men expect to get by being good at one thing. If he has an athletic body, he feels he doesn't need to know or be able to do anything else. If he's wealthy, well...what else is needed? And if he's smart and educated, at least you have the privilege of attracting his attention...regardless of whether or not that attention and intelligence is actually to put to any use.
Meanwhile, when it's a "she" in question...she is expected to be thin (except her ass and boobs) with perfect "everything", know how to cook, clean, have a good job, raise kids, never fart or burp or feel/look tired, never be in a bad mood, and not talk too much...or at all.
Ladies, are any of you single? I'm single. I also live in Houston. We could be a power couple.