Jesus, that was painful to watch. He's just so...I don't even know the right word.
I'm assuming you don't live in the Bay Area or you'd be working with/living around that kind of guy all of the time. All of the time. People are very open with their problematic views of Asian women out here, and you cannot ever point out that it is problematic (esp. not as a black woman).
I remember watching this when it first aired.At the time, I was fighting back laughter the second Creepy White Dude's Orientalist fantasies started unraveling post-wedding, when his "submissive geisha" started asserting herself as her own person, with her own dreams and goals independent of his. And when she told the interviewer she was going to leave dude's ass, I was screaming, "YASSSS gurl! Get that green card and run!" And then...she came back? I'm still unsure as to exactly why, and I'm wondering if it's because she didn't have a large enough support network in the States. But I was pretty disappointed that she didn't stay away, and I'm sure her reasons had more to do with residual co-dependence than "love". I realize the overall message was more complex than that; at least Creepy White Dude finally came to understand that he was dealing with a real, live, woman, but he seriously deserved to be left alone for the rest of his life by the time the film wrapped. Ugh.
at least Creepy White Dude finally came to understand that he was dealing with a real, live, womanBut notice how once reality started to kick in, he hopped right back on his computer and started "browsing".
This is true...he really didn't learn his lesson, when all was said and done. Maybe when it came to HER, but that fetish sure didn't go *any*damnwhere. Like I said, I'd have absolutely loved it if the doc had wrapped with him alone, seriously reevaluating his life and decisions (and regretting the hell out of both).
Oh! I'm not sure how much credibility to give the YouTube comments on this vid, but one person who posted said that these two divorced a couple of months after the documentary aired. So...dude is definitely back to square one.
A lot of creepy, entitled white dudes are able to take their buying power overseas and yet still don't acknowledge that they are really just entering a transaction and not a romance. I'm not even mad when the women get their green cards and run, b/c those men are just looking for a way not to deal with real women, and have the mistaken assumption that women in "Asia" are all dying to wait on their creepy old white selves.
These are the men who marry strippers and hookers right here in America. They want to be the guy who gets to play hero and take home the fantasy woman who's eager to please.But like you said, this is a transaction, and the moment she reminds them of that in any way, she becomes a lying, cold-hearted, gold-digging whore, and they go out and try to find the fantasy woman who won't break character.
Damn, 0:35:00, he can't even think of a single legit thing she could get out of being with him.
As my grandmother would say "Lawd...". Just listen to how these guys are talking. Why do you like Asian women. Nothing that equates to real love.I had an article that I bookmarked but my nephew accidently erased it.There was a Hapa girl who talked about her family and the anger she had for her father for the very reasons that you see on this clip. I mean, she put the capital A in angry and I understand why. The poster described her father as a White man who was a sick Asianphile. He started off like this scary guy on here but once the father married the mom,he really showed out..for the worse. According to the poster, the father was abuse , said racist/stereotypical remarks about their Filipino mom and he was a habitual cheater seeking to do the same to other Asian women and ..oh let me not forget to say that he also abandoned the family. The poster was pissed at her dad that she was warning Black women,as well as other WOC not to date/marry White men. I hate that my nephew lost my article. If I ever find the article, I will show it on here. I guess he doesn't know about Rupert Murdoch's wife. The irony about his situation was that it is said that the divorce may have stemmed from her intervening on his behalf during his phone hacking trial. I guess Wendy wasn't the stereotypical subservient Asian wife he wanted her to be..lol!As I said on a previous article, I don't feel bad if a White /non-Black man overlook me because of my race, because at the end of the day, if it's meant to be,the good lord will send me a man who will be right for me and will not be for me for stereotypes regardless of his any race. This guy seems like a pompous jerk that needs to go.It's guys like Steven that I try to avoid..men who try to find the easy way out of life. The narrator gave some great advice to guys like him. Marriage is hard regardless of the race of the woman you marry, you can't run from it.
@M, If you know Wendi Deng's backstory than you'd know that there is no way Rupert married her thinking she was some shrinking violet who was going to carry his slippers. When she was in college, she was hired by an expat American family to be their nanny/au pair. The husband had an affair with her, and the wife (who was in the dark at the time) brought her back to the US, where her entry was sponsored by the fact that she worked for them (and I think was also going to go back to school). The husband quickly divorced his wife and married her, and as soon as she got her green card she moved on (and already had a lover by this time as well).She met Murdoch on a plane while he was married to his 2nd wife, who he divorced to marry her. However 2nd wife didn't go down without a fight, and she made him agree that only her kids and his daughter from his first marriage would have voting rights in the corporation.The kids he has with Wendi are equal heirs but lacking those votes was a big deal b/c they would have belonged to Wendi until they are about 25 or so (which is a long way away). But I just mention this story to say that subservient and meek is one stereotype, and the other one is more just "hot" Asian seductress and she has always been pretty blatant about how she operates and what her goals are. She would fit the "dragon lady" stereotype instead of the "delicate Asian flower." Have you seen her picture? The woman looks like she eats babies for breakfast. No way anyone looks at her and thinks they are getting catered to. I think their marriage is ending b/c she got as much as she was going to get and I'm sure she'll find another husband if she wants one b/c as they say, "there is no fool like an old fool."So she is a player and she has played these stupid old white men like a boss.
Wow. I just assumed that Deng came from a well-to-do Chinese family, and therefore, had entree to the same kinds of social circles as Murdoch. I think Murdoch is vile, and interestingly, I understand that his newspapers in Australia are responsible for riling up a lot of anti- Asian immigrant fervor. I'm sure Deng is as unlikable as Murdoch, but she's shrewd, and obviously, both of them knew exactly what they were doing.
I read it . Though Wendy was all kinds of wrong in breaking people's families up,she had those guys at her fingertips.I definitely will agree with you about her looks. She did picture me as a woman who didn't take no crap and she's Lola..whatever she wants, she gets. When I first read about their marriage, I said Wendy just hit the jackpot and she knew it.The only thing is how...I mean.. just how did she manage to look at him for those many years..*cough cough* She may love that money,but I don't know if I could take it.There are rumors that she's may be hooking up with Tony Blair. Well in comparison to Rupert,I rather look at him. I can't put it past her.She's on the prowl.
Well, my theory is that those women just suck it up long enough to have Paycheck 1 and Paycheck 2 and then they are done. I mean he's so old she could probably slip him something in his tea and then prop him up in bed and he wouldn't know the difference. There is that quote that supposedly Queen Victoria said to her daughter about her wedding night "just lie back and think of England."I think women like Deng just lie back and think of dollars, and honestly, as far as the whole how does she do it look at the legions of women who are just like her. You have racists marrying rich black ball players and actors. You have young women marrying men who are old enough to be their great grandfathers. For some women the paycheck is worth it. I'd heard the Tony Blair rumors too. If that is true Cherie should throw him out. George Soros just married a 40 something year old. He's about 157. And ex-mayor Daley of Chicago is 70 and has a hot young black doctor girlfriend too...
I actually think those men played themselves and don't really subscribe to the notion that you can break up anyone's families. They had a choice between her and their wives and they chose her. I fail to see the appeal b/c she looks so hard. But that is what you get for believing in racist stereotypes. And old men who marry women half their age who need green cards know what they are getting. And I found it amusing how hard her first husband played himself and got played. But his wife is better off without him b/c if he was a good husband he would not have been screwing the help. A cheater is going to cheat. And a non-cheater isn't.
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