It's Not the Same Damn Thing
Don’t you wish Barack Obama could be as free as Michelle Obama when talking to people in public? Yesterday, she took down a lesbian protester from the group GetEqual while speaking at a private democratic fundraiser that cost $500-$10,000 to attend. You can read it here. The self identified lesbian protestor started yelling about the need for the President to sign an executive order so she can have her ”federal equality” before she dies.Right there with you, boo-boo.
Well, whoopee fuckin’ deal. Bitch I been wanting all my life to be equal in my country of birth, get in line. Yelling at the President or his wife would have gotten my black lesbian ass locked up in jail. You just got escorted out which was nothing more than another example of white privilege in America.
All these white people writing about poorly how Michelle Obama handled the heckler need to shut the fuck up and sit down somewhere.
For one, I'm not a fan of hecklers. They're the ones who cut into comic routines and crash the stage during concerts and ultimately waste people's time. If you're paying to see someone and hear them speak, then shut the fuck up and let them speak.
I've noticed that everyone writing about this is bringing up the fact that Ellen Sturtz is gay and are unsuccessfully using it as a shield. Sturtz's behavior was wrong, and her sexual orientation does not magically absolve her of that. Her being gay doesn't make it okay for her tell the First Lady to tell her husband what she, Sturtz, wants them to do...as though they were a couple of old house slaves.
Mr. Obama promised to sign such an order as a candidate in 2008, but has yet to do so, pointed out GetEQUAL in a press release following the incident. (Source)And by all means, he needs to get on that, because lip service to gay rights fools nobody. This whole "first sitting President to endorse gay marriage" looks nice in the history books and pretty on resumes, but he needs to put that shit in writing and start passing some actual laws. Which brings us to the conveniently neglected fact that he signs executive orders, not the First Lady, and if he decides to go back on his word, Michelle can't stop him.
In an interview, Sturtz told the Washington Post, that she was stunned by the first lady's response to her heckling.This is a weak attempt to make Sturtz look innocent and helpless (you know...like a white damsel in distress?). Let's be logical about this: you heckled a guest speaker. Contrary to how you're trying to portray yourself, you interrupted her multiple times (big surprise). You expected her to, what...like it? Enjoy it? Get on her knees and beg for more?
"She came right down in my face," Sturtz told the Post. "I was taken aback." (Source)
Sturtz was escorted out of the room. She said in an interview later she was stunned by Obama’s response.
“She came right down in my face,” Sturtz said. “I was taken aback.”
Sturtz said she told Obama she was happy to take the microphone to plead her case, which, Sturtz said, appeared to fluster the first lady. (Source)
I'm glad Michelle basically told Sturtz to go fuck herself because this had me flashing back to every white girl who ever got up in my face, issuing orders, rolling her eyes, throwing tantrums, and demanding to be catered to...just 'cause. That is a very real, very constant part of POC life in America. You can be the First Lady of the United States of America, and it obviously won't change a damn thing.
As a woman of color living in this country, dealing with what we deal with every damn day, it feels awesome to see Michelle Obama put her fucking foot down like this. Enough is enough, already. You want respect? You want cooperation? That shit goes both ways. And it stays both ways; you don't rescind it when it suits you.
What can we tell from this? For one thing, for all her ease on “Ellen” and other shows, Mrs. Obama still has stuff to learn about public speaking.Ah, yes...the Angry Black Mammy. Here we go again.
Anger is much less effective than humor or a sort of rope-a-dope flexibility. Mr. Obama showed this in his May 23 speech on counterterrorism at the National Defense University. He was interrupted by Code Pink activist Medea Benjamin, whom he engaged in a bit of back-and-forth before saying, “This is part of free speech, is you being able to speak but also you listening and me being able to speak.”
He got applause for that. Of course, it was easy for him be relaxed: He was on a secure Defense Department installation.
Mrs. Obama might just have been channeling her inner parent. She sounded a bit like someone speaking to a teenager who’s neglected homework to watch “Arrested Development.” Perhaps this is why Sasha and Malia seem so well behaved.
And she has given some ammunition to critics who consider her a food scold and too nannylike. Some conservatives complain about Mrs. Obama’s push for kids to eat more vegetables and so on as an intrusion into parental prerogatives. (Source)
Stop telling us how you think we should handle you when you act the fool. The irony here is that white people really think they're helping, giving good advice on how to "win them over" when they're being assholes.
We're not interested in winning you over. If you have no respect for us to begin with*, you are no friend. You are no "ally". You are not a part of the solution. You are merely yet another knife pointed at our backs waiting for your turn.
Mrs. Obama’s experience was mild compared to what Lady Bird Johnson went through in the fall of 1964 when she campaigned in the South for her husband. LBJ had just signed the Civil Rights Act, and many white Southerners were incensed. In Richmond, Va., Mrs. Johnson was greeted by a banner that read, “Fly Away Lady Bird.”This is just to downplay what happened (not to mention conveniently invoking the Civil Rights Act) and try to find ways to make it seem like everything is the FLOTUS's fault while taking cheap shots at her.
But she pressed on, giving 47 speeches to a total of half a million people.
“I am aware that there are those who would exploit [the South’s] past troubles to their own advantage," she said on Oct. 9, 1964, in New Orleans. "But I do not believe the majority of the South wants any part of the old bitterness.” (Source)
Then again, it's Wednesday, so I don't know why I'm even bothering.
*This is the part where white folks start chanting about how much they love [insert whichever POC they were blasting here]. Respect is not merely said; it is shown, and Ellen Sturtz did not show respect. Many whites will take issue with that type of statement because even in 2013, "post-racial" America, they don't like showing POC respect, and many of them genuinely don't even know how - it's that antithetical to their way of thinking.
Lastly, all these white writers are coming to Sturtz's defense because she tried to put a black woman in check. These - and others - are news sites and blogs I check daily and I've never seen them so pro-gay and ready to take up pens for the cause. When our President is a gay man or woman - and that day will come - will these same sites still be this gung-ho? Doubt it. This is just a classic case of white solidarity, namely protecting the fragile white dame from the bitter black bitch.