The Abagond Challenge
As early as age 12 I started to understand that I was seriously out-of-step with (white) American ideas of beauty:Okay, so Abagond recently penned one of those posts which garnered the kind of illogical pushback that could only come from a troll. Now, the reason I dismiss the commenter in question as a troll is that when a heterosexual black man indicates via opinion he prefers black women, there's really nothing to "debate". After all, there isn't a problem when heterosexual Asian men voice preference for Asian women or when heterosexual white men voice preference for white women
I did not get the blonde-hair-blue-eyed thing at all. I knew, intellectually, that it was “supposed” to look better, but to me it did not. I liked black hair. All the way. I liked dark-brown, almond-shaped eyes – they were way better looking.
The thing about big breasts I did understand, and not just intellectually either, but even there I preferred women with big bottoms over those with big breasts.
I did not get the thin thing. Sure, thin was better than fat, but thick was better than either. The shape of black women was cut the right way – white women’s bodies were too straight up and down, too stick-like, not much shape (in general, of course).
Thin lips: This was before Angelina Jolie gave thick lips the White Seal of Approval. Back then whites made it crystal clear that they found big lips disgusting. They did not even call them “big”. White vernacular culture had a far worse name for them. But despite that I loved big lips. They were anything but disgusting!
The face of a black woman could turn me on. White women almost always had to be naked to have the same effect.
~ Abagond, "My supposed secret desire for white women"
'Cause seriously, if you're a black man and you want to start a riot, say you prefer white women. But if you want to unleash the very floodgates of hell, talk about your preference for black women.
Seriously, just whisper it and watch everything come crashing down. Why? Because to imply that you favor black women is to imply you favor white women less. To imply that white women are less than any other women - especially black women - is akin to sacrilege.
Commenter Peanut (who basically inspired this post of mine) aptly wrote:
it’s just the hypocrisy that i can’t stand and i’m speaking generally. why is it normal and acceptable for a white man to prefer white women or asian women, but a black man preferring black women (his own damn race) something’s wrong with him…or he’s “lying,” i don’t get it…Whenever someone gets upset about posts like Abagond's, I believe there's only one perfect response: write a dozen more like 'em.
and the funny thing is, it’s not okay for a Black man to say he prefers Black women, but if John Mayer calls his penis a white supremacist…that’s just his preference.
So for those of you who are black male readers of this blog, I present the Abagond Challenge. Write a post on your blog (even if you don't blog and want to present it here as a guest post) as to what you like about black men/women (whichever one you're attracted to; doesn't matter). When it's done, come back and drop the links off here, even if they're old links to posts you wrote a long time ago.
If I receive enough submissions, the Abagond Challenge will receive its own tag at the bar and so folks can always come back to browse these posts to enjoy the awesomeness that is us. And why do we need to enjoy the awesomeness that is us?
Here's a refresher:
It is very interesting to note that, even though black women are objectively less physically attractive than other women, black women (and men) subjectively consider themselves to be far more physically attractive than others.Brings back memories, don't it?
~ "Dr." Satoshi Kanazawa