Bet he calls himself a Nice Guy, too.
It seems like there are more Nice Guys out there than there are decent human beings.
Yea.I guess his definition of being "nice" is to kiss his butt. If that is what he calls being a gentleman, he can have it.
He's the kind of nice guy who only hits you b/c you make him...
He's probably an overprivileged, sheltered white male who feels he can do anything and get anything. He's probably married, but treats his wife like shit because she calls him out on his crap. So, he feels that an Asian woman would be more submissive to a white man. What a piece of work.
That's usually how it works. But luckily she's not full of internalized racism b/c not everyone would check his ass the way she did. So not surprising that he turned to slurs when she told him off. So many racists want to sleep with WOC. It's hilarious. She dared to call him out, she dared to shatter his stereotypes, and he immediately shows what he'd REALLY do to her if they dated.
@Nicthommi-I agree with the internalized racism. My sister's best friend is filipina. She preceded to give me a long list of problems with filipino men when she found out I was seeing one. If I had not known him for years already it would have seriously turned me off from dating him.
Things like this are kind of funny but really not. He really believes what he's saying. He truly believes the foolishness that he sent her. He is completely ans utterly invested in these stereotypes. I've come to find out a lot of white men have this same mentality. This sick belief that on the bases of stereotypical Asian male "inferiority" Asian women belong to them.
It's the kind of thing you have to laugh at to avoid getting a little sickened by it. Well, he believed it until she called him out, and then he felt comfortable using a slur and wishing harm upon her.
I keep seeing 'submissive' and its various euphemisms thrown around by men when it comes to foreign and/or women of colour. From men looking for their perfect Russian mail-order bride, to other groups looking for 'love' in South East Asia, the Caribbean, or Central and South America, that's the main thread. "Oh, they're not like American women at all! They know how to make a man feel like a man!" and "They're very traditional!". Mostly white men on those trips, yes, but I've also seen a number of black men joining in. Wish I could say I was shocked by that.And another thing - I've RARELY heard of these men going to Northern and Western European nations for brides. It's almost always Central to Eastern Europe that serves as their prowling grounds, when they want to go European at all.
Well, they need women who are poor and desperate, b/c that feeds into their idea that they are not materialistic and don't care if you are old, ugly, and unsuccessful. Women in Northern and Western Europe are too prosperous for this ish. And even if they aren't, their countries have enough social services that they don't need to marry for green cards. And in places like Spain and Italy, they aren't even getting married b/c they have jobs and don't want to or need to deal with chauvinistic, spoiled men (in Italy, called "mammoni") and their crap. I saw a show about men looking for mail-order brides and it was lots of fat, balding, loser looking white guys who were all late 40's and up. A lot of them look like those guys that wind up being serial killers.The girls lured into the event (the men traveled to Russia) were all well under 30. The organizer was one of these losers who had gotten a much younger Russian single mom to marry him. B/c you know, young Russian women just love ugly American men. The men were marveling at all of the pretty women there to meet them. They translated what the girls were saying and trust me, they were not impressed. They had thought they were going to meet good-looking, age appropriate men, not schlubs.And the body language between some of the couples the resulted from these events made it clear how much these women were sacrificing to get out of their current lives and into something better.Have you ever seen a woman being touched by a man she is repulsed by? It is unmistakable. But a lot of the women who agree to marry have young children and no help and you can tell that is why they take this awful hit.I also read an article about some of these schlubs moving to Thailand although in at least one of the articles, you could see the women getting a bit of an edge b/c they were able to get money for themselves and a lot of relatives, much to the surprise of the men. And they weren't wealthy men, but in South East Asia, what they had was a lot so the women were gold digging, just at a lower level. It was funny b/c there were quotes about people not understanding why someone in the wife's extended family always needed something and why they had to pay for it.
@ nicthommiWhich documentary was that? I saw one recently about an old white man who married a Thai woman and she bought a house and a buisness and cleaned him out.It made me and my friends laugh because the tone of the documentary suggested that the man was the victim in the situation because he didn't understand Thai laws and got taken advantage of. The part that made us laugh was when he found out she was seeing another man, she had told him it was a relative but it was a lover. Much more handsome than him, and more age appropriate. When he started crying we just burst out laughing. There was this sad music playing and everything that just made it so much funnier.He was fifty years old, had bad teeth, and he was overweight, but he described himself as "good looking" nice guy. that jsut wanted someone to settle down with. He complained that women in his country, he's British, were "liars" and "sluts".The irony was just too much.
Can't they ever deal with people, as, you know, people?
I remembered what the Richard Heene( the man whose son got in trouble for the Balloon hoax a couple of years ago on "Wife Swap") said for reasons of marrying a Japanese woman. His words were similar to that of what the idiot of the post said..that Asian women were more submissive than American women. The man in the post is such a pompous liar! There are plenty of White men who are abusive to women. My sister can't never forget about the White man that dragged his wife by her hair on the street then kicked her. She was 3 at the time and there are many more that do it. Please!
I always find it amusing how people like this always go ape shit and start spewing more insults (after their initial serving of patronising insulting garbage they think is polite, friendly, and attractive). Like this guy, his approach didn't work so he decided to hell with it, Imma show this woman! Imma show her what I really think of all women, all Asian women!
So the second he couldn't get any play, his true colors (from those Cloroxed white robes) shined through.
It is interesting how quickly they flip that switch. I mean, they don't even try for a 2nd time. They immediately launch into racist and misogynistic tirades once the women reveal themselves not to be submissive little lotus flowers.Actually, one of my Asian friends just had this experience on one of the online dating sites(she sent me a screen shot of their exchange). The guy didn't get to call her a slur b/c she sent her response and blocked him, but he was clearly escalating and getting angry and had already said it was obvious why she was still alone. It just took one email not getting the response he wanted from her for him to stop patronizing her and start the insults. But it's always the same...oh, so pretty, love your culture, so delicate and feminine and then "you dirty b****, how dare you refuse my magical white penis when offered!"And this is just one more reason why I'm glad to be a black woman, b/c they never even bother to put up the mask when the only reason they want to have sex with you is because you are black. They just come out and ask b/c hey, you're black, isn't that what black chicks do all of the time?
@Nicthommi - Yup. We're born screaming for dick, donchakno.
I'll be honest...I laughed when I first read this. Hard and loud. This is so hilarious. He's like a telemarketer dictating reality in order to make a sale."Your life sucks and if you don't date me, bad things will (continue to) happen to you. Because I said so, thus it must be true."
It's sad how common this is. It seems to these men that all WOC are waiting for a white knight in shining armor to save them from their wasted lives with teh ebil MOC. The even sadder part is that MOC are eating this kind of racist shit when it comes to dealing with different kinds of WOC.
Just added a new word to my vocabulary: gwello.
You mean gweilo.
This is why interracial relations should be banned. I've met many pale men who lust after my dark skin. You can almost pick up on their creepy vibe. When a pale man comes after you in that sense, just stay away from them as best as you can.
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