Contemplating "The Rule of Being Nice"

Mm-hm.

Bar patrons, I was thinking...have you ever noticed the rule of "Being Nice"?  For example, we've noticed that white people often reference the POC they know or admire whenever they hear something they don't like from POC.  You know..."My Black/Asian/Hispanic friends don't mind when I say [insert the usual here]" or "Well, Katt Williams/Chris Rock/Jay-Z/Herman Cain agree that [insert the other usual here]".

Good...we're up to speed.

This is part where whichever POC they're speaking to often clears something up to them: their friends of color are just being nice.  They are sugarcoating things.  In some cases, they're smiling and nodding to your face while plotting your death in their minds.  If they're a celebrity/politician, they're trying to make their money and keep it.  And the moment a POC says this out loud, the white person they're speaking to usually has an aneurysm.  After all, just because a POC told them exactly what they wanted to hear where race was concerned, there's Absolutely No Way that POC was just being nice.

Switch it for a moment, though.

Comic books nerds have often had to explain to comic book infidels about the real meaning and the inspiration behind X-Men.  And whenever Stan Lee himself says/writes that yes, Xavier represents Martin Luther King, Jr. and Magneto is realy Malcolm X, the infidels immediately respond that Lee is "just being nice."

When Star Trek legend Leonard Nimoy not only gave his blessing to the Spock/Uhura romance, but flat-out admitted to being jealous he never got to kiss Uhura in his time, he was "just being nice."

Whenever any white guy compliments a famous Black woman, and openly expresses interest in dark-skinned women in general, he's "just being nice" (including when they ask us out, pay for our dinner/drinks, and try to kiss us...they're "just being nice").

Fascinating, isn't it?

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  1. Denial's one helluva drug.

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  2. "Comic books nerds have often had to explain to comic book infidels about the real meaning and the inspiration behind X-Men. And whenever Stan Lee himself says/writes that yes, Xavier represents Martin Luther King, Jr. and Magneto is realy Malcolm X, the infidels immediately respond that Lee is "just being nice.""

    Well, that the thing white people just don't want to add POC into the fandom or to the characters. That's why I didn't like the X-men Destiny video game.

    "When Star Trek legend Leonard Nimoy not only gave his blessing to the Spock/Uhura romance, but flat-out admitted to being jealous he never got to kiss Uhura in his time, he was "just being nice.""

    Well given the fact that you have both Jew and A black woman romance will be highly unlikely. Even now with a gay actor and a black woman. White people are going to blow thier brains out.

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  3. Hopefully this isn't too off-topic but I've noticed a need to minimize a person's blackness when they are recognized as being really pretty (and I think smart and academically accomplished too).
    So anytime a black woman's beauty is praised, if they aren't being nice, then she only is pretty b/c she's PRACTICALLY white and isn't therefore isn't all uglified by Negro genes like the rest of us. There is a ridiculous list of black women that white people swear just look like white women with tans.

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  4. It is a bit off topic, but believe it or not, it too falls near and dear to the Rule of Being Nice.

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  5. I always find it interesting that whenever a POC is saying something to cosign on a white person's racist rhetoric, our word is the Gospel delivered to us by the Hand of God.

    Yet the moment we call out white folks' racism, suddenly we don't know what the hell we're talking about. We're too close to the subject to be "objective" and the other usual ish that comes with it.

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  6. @ Neo-Prodigy

    Excellently stated. When we agree, we know what we're talking about. When we disagree, the condescension begins.

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  7. Fascinating? Yes. Surprising? Not by a long shot.

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  8. Often these "black friends" who "approve" are actually people who are not friends, rather they are people they work with or work for who are not in a position to tell white people what they really think of them without consequences. Or they are the only black person in the room and who doesn't feel like confronting a room full of white people. This is then taken by white people as approval of their actions. But I guess this goes against the stereotype that we irrationally angry all the time, the fact that so many of us know how to hold our tongue to keep food on the table.

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  9. seriously they're gonna play that game...Seriously if a man is paying for a girl's dinner and doing things for her it means he likes her not that he's being nice. This is where White Women need to pull their head's out of their asses and smell the fresh cup of cold hard facts that just below their nose.

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