Where You Stand

Ma'at
Some of you recall that old clichéd-ass Michelle Pfeiffer flick in which an inner city school kid asks, "So if someone has a gun to your head, you can 'choose' not to die?"  To which another replies, "No, but you can choose to die without screaming."  This always stuck with me.

A recent post of mine was inspired by a new take on an old focus of mine: choice.  Choice is a very funny thing; people want the right to choose for themselves, but when it comes time to face the consequences of their choices, they backpedal.  Or they switch the topic to the issue opinions, and how they can't be judged, held accountable, or be racist/sexist/homophobic, etc. just for having an opinion.

While I can discuss and theorize reasons about human behavior all day, every day, my primary focus comes back to where people ultimately stand.  Hence my discouraging of debating.  When I talk about various issues, I'm basically saying, "This is my stance.  I'm not throwing down a gauntlet, nor extending an invitation to be converted.  I'm just lettin' you know where I stand."

Call it a warning or simple courtesy - whatever floats your boat.  I like to let people know where I stand because I need people let me know where they stand.  Where you stand, regardless of your reasoning, determines whether or not I will ever have anything to do with you again.

One thing I've noticed about drones and draptos is that when talking about race, they debate in order to "convert" their listeners.  The goal, of course, is to get the listener not to accept the speaker's beliefs, but the speaker himself.

In other words, it's the Sweet Tooth, or having racist cake and eating it too.  Drones in particular want to maintain their racists beliefs, but keep their friends and significant others of color as well (some draptos try this too).  So whenever they state their perspective, they're not just letting you know where they stand.  They also want you to know why and feel they deserve to be accepted regardless of what they believe.

And here's the hilarity: drones like to quote Martin Luther King, Jr. about being judged by the content of their character and not the color of their skin. In other words, they claim to want to be judged by how they act and what they say, not their white skin. Well okay, fair enough. However, when you grant their supposedly fondest wish, they get upset.

Drone-speak lets a POC know where a white person stands. The moment a white person utters a statement like any of those listed on the Contemplating "White American Individuality" post, I know what I'm dealing with. Though I already tend to understand how and why they think that way, the "why" is ultimately irrelevant - I know what I'm dealing with, and now I have to make a choice.

Despite the clichés and the dilution of his words, Martin Luther King, Jr. was and shall always be one of the greatest and most profoundly influential thinkers of the 20th Century.  And when I reject some drone or drapto, I'm following his wisdom to the letter: judging them on the content of their character, and not the color of their skin.

Some of us POC are sick and tired of drone-speak.  It's like talking to a wall, only a wall would probably be more insightful.  I say be grateful for drone-speak, both online and in real life.  Because once those words pass a person's lips, they bare their true nature to you, telling you everything you need to know:  They are not a part of the solution.  They are the reason progress remains at bay.

And you don't owe them shit.

Comments

  1. My Grandmother always said "I can show you better than I can tell you." I never forget those words. I can't even describe how much I loathe those who believe they can say whatever the hell racist shit they want, and then talk about their "opinion."

    I don't get into debates much. I never have because my position has always been, this is my stance and quite frankly I don't really care what you think. Call me arrogant, but unless I hold you in some regard, I don't want to hear you and if your so called opinion is racist/bigoted, then we're really done.

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  2. This is why I don't have a problem with the KKK. They let black folks (and other PoC) know up front where they stand with them. There's no mystery, no debate, no deciphering, no clues, none of that bullshit. They hate black people. They will kill us. There's no imaginary line or anything of the sort. THEY HATE PEOPLE OF COLOR. I'm not naive. I know this to be fact. I don't pretend that just because it's 2011 that things have changed. And knowing this, I avoid places where I know the KKK reside. I live in the Deep South...and I know where they are.

    I can respect it when I know up front where I stand with you. I don't respect those who talk out of both sides of their mouth. Pick a side. Either shit or get off the pot. I prefer people to own themselves and their beliefs whether I agree with them or not. It's my choice on whether I want to deal with the shenanigans and the tomfoolery. And I think that's where a lot of people get stuck...the fact that they do have a choice in such matters. You can choose to say, "Oh yes, I see your point and I do understand and accept you." Or you can say, "Shut the hell up and get the fuck outta my face." You can choose to say some combination of both, or nothing at all. Silence is an answer. The point is that you can choose. Know yourself and know where you stand, and then you don't have to convince anyone else to see things your way.

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  3. Amaya,

    I agree. Hate groups are upfront with where they stand, and you don't hear a lot of the usual bullshit you get from unsuccessful closet racists, the ones who may say "I'm not racist, but..." They let their hatred be known. They are proud racists for the most part.

    I hate it when white people bring up MLK's 'color-content line' because not only does it show they have no interest in discussing racism let alone face their own, but it also shows much much they know of the man. All they know IS that one line from his famous speech. MLK said, wrote, and did more than that speech. If they knew, their opinions will change in a heartbeat.

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  4. @Amaya: THIS!!!!!

    Most white folks think that the only "real racism" is from the Nazis and the Klan. And yes they are dangerous and you have to keep an eye on them, they aren't the ones I'm worried about. It's the everyday white folks who smile in your face and spend every waking moment trying to dismantle you.

    Dr. MLK called it when he said that the biggest stumbling block fo Civil Rights was the white moderate liberal.

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  5. "Most white folks think that the only "real racism" is from the Nazis and the Klan. And yes they are dangerous and you have to keep an eye on them, they aren't the ones I'm worried about. It's the everyday white folks who smile in your face and spend every waking moment trying to dismantle you."

    Amen to that, Neo.

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  6. @Neo:

    ...they aren't the ones I'm worried about. It's the everyday folks who smile in your face and spend every waking moment trying to dismantle you.

    Tell the truth and shame the devil. You ain't never lied. Those motherfuckers are the ones who are quick to knife you in the back and people need to recognize because the signs are there. A person doesn't wake up one random morning and decide to be a serial killer; that is something that builds over time and there are signs. Same thing here.

    Then you have those PoC who have some strange alignment with said closet racists who will also rat you out to them because they think it will upgrade their status in their eyes. I've encountered a few of these individuals and I stay the hell away from their asses to.

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  7. For me, it's the cake-and-eat-it-too drones/drapto. They are the ones who feel "nigger" falls well within their FOS, but still want to be friends with black people, and don't see a conflict.

    They might as well be saying, "No, I don't believe in an equal society, and yes, I understand that negatively impacts you, BUT...I still think we should be friends/go out."

    Hell, no.

    This is why I'm all about some Colorful Flight. Pack yo' shit and move the hell away from these people if you have to. I did it. Been back in Houston 4.5 months and wondering why the hell I ever left in the first place.

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  8. @ Ankh
    They might as well be saying, "No, I don't believe in an equal society, and yes, I understand that negatively impacts you, BUT...I still think we should be friends/go out."

    The thing is they don't want to be your "friends" they want you to be their accessory.

    They want to carry you around with them, so that they can be as racist as they please/enjoy white priiledge but they don't have to suffer any consequences for it. Whenever a discrepancy arises they can always have you there to back them up. Preferably fight the battle for them.

    I think many white people are just...sheeple. Completely spineless. They don't think for themselves, at all. KKK may be dangerous murderers but at least they have the balls to be upfront about their racism.

    That to me IS more dangerous. A violent brutal thug can be consistent in that regard. A coward is unreliable, unpredictable, and treacherous.

    "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer" is something I never subscribed to for this very reason, why give them more oppurtunities to take you down? Nope. Stay the fuck away from me.

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  9. The thing is they don't want to be your "friends" they want you to be their accessory.

    But that's just it: they don't see the difference/conflict in that regard either.

    I think many white people are just...sheeple.

    LOVE IT. Adding it to the Lexicon.

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  10. But that's just it: they don't see the difference/conflict in that regard either.

    But that would require thinking. Sheeple don't like to think.

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  11. Ill take the kkk and neo nazi folks over" closet" racists any day. I prefer people to be up front with their bullcrap rather than shuckin and jiving and skirting all around the issues and how they really feel. No" im not racist but...",or" I don't usually date your kind but..."just come out with it so we can all move on and noones pretending we live in the perfect post racial society. And I would like to add that having neighbors of color, associates of color,even family members of color that you tolerate, does not make you exempt from having any racial issues.

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