Where You Stand
A recent post of mine was inspired by a new take on an old focus of mine: choice. Choice is a very funny thing; people want the right to choose for themselves, but when it comes time to face the consequences of their choices, they backpedal. Or they switch the topic to the issue opinions, and how they can't be judged, held accountable, or be racist/sexist/homophobic, etc. just for having an opinion.
While I can discuss and theorize reasons about human behavior all day, every day, my primary focus comes back to where people ultimately stand. Hence my discouraging of debating. When I talk about various issues, I'm basically saying, "This is my stance. I'm not throwing down a gauntlet, nor extending an invitation to be converted. I'm just lettin' you know where I stand."
Call it a warning or simple courtesy - whatever floats your boat. I like to let people know where I stand because I need people let me know where they stand. Where you stand, regardless of your reasoning, determines whether or not I will ever have anything to do with you again.
One thing I've noticed about drones and draptos is that when talking about race, they debate in order to "convert" their listeners. The goal, of course, is to get the listener not to accept the speaker's beliefs, but the speaker himself.
In other words, it's the Sweet Tooth, or having racist cake and eating it too. Drones in particular want to maintain their racists beliefs, but keep their friends and significant others of color as well (some draptos try this too). So whenever they state their perspective, they're not just letting you know where they stand. They also want you to know why and feel they deserve to be accepted regardless of what they believe.
And here's the hilarity: drones like to quote Martin Luther King, Jr. about being judged by the content of their character and not the color of their skin. In other words, they claim to want to be judged by how they act and what they say, not their white skin. Well okay, fair enough. However, when you grant their supposedly fondest wish, they get upset.
Drone-speak lets a POC know where a white person stands. The moment a white person utters a statement like any of those listed on the Contemplating "White American Individuality" post, I know what I'm dealing with. Though I already tend to understand how and why they think that way, the "why" is ultimately irrelevant - I know what I'm dealing with, and now I have to make a choice.
Despite the clichés and the dilution of his words, Martin Luther King, Jr. was and shall always be one of the greatest and most profoundly influential thinkers of the 20th Century. And when I reject some drone or drapto, I'm following his wisdom to the letter: judging them on the content of their character, and not the color of their skin.
Some of us POC are sick and tired of drone-speak. It's like talking to a wall, only a wall would probably be more insightful. I say be grateful for drone-speak, both online and in real life. Because once those words pass a person's lips, they bare their true nature to you, telling you everything you need to know: They are not a part of the solution. They are the reason progress remains at bay.
And you don't owe them shit.