WP...Stop Obsessing over Supposed Non-Racist White Politicians (Updated)

Let me begin this by saying I hate American politics.  It really is a soap opera for [mostly] ugly people.  I'm sick of seeing all these wealthy yet borderline illiterate, inarticulate "popular kids" engage in their clique wars while the economy crumbles down around them, taking healthcare, education, foreign relations, and other crucial institutions with it.  I don't care who called who what, or where, or why, or how.  Like Grayson once said, I don't give a shit about any of these people's feelings.  They're politicians.  Being insulted horribly is in their goddamn job description (has been for literally thousands of years), and for the money some of them have, they're really in no position to bitch.

Now we have a black president, and white people seem eager to line up and talk about how much they hate Obama, how it has nothing to do with race, how their political darlings du jour aren't racist either for trying to undermine Obama, and how it's soooooooo mean to call their politicians racist.

And for some reason...they feel the need to tell all this to me.

1) I'm not your fucking sounding board

How may times do black people have to tell white folks not to randomly walk up to us and basically lecture us about your thoughts on race in America?  You've probably read a bunch of nostalgic memories of warm-hearted maids and mammies whom your ancestors constantly unburdened themselves to.  You probably imagine those black women looked just like Moi.

Um...fuck you.

2) I'm not interested in hearing about [supposed] non-racist white politicians

Surprised? If you've been paying attention, you really shouldn't be.  As a woman of color, living in America, I'm not looking over my shoulder for harmless, non-racist white politicians who support laws to make our society an egalitarian meritocracy, or who conduct themselves gracefully and eloquently in interviews, without resorting to race-baiting or finger-pointing.

Obviously, they're not the ones fucking with me.

All you conservative Democrats, moderate Republicans, neo-conservative-whoevers, Tea Partiers, and whatever other bullshit label you've gone and slapped yourselves with...listen up.  Let me tell you a little something about people of color and politics in America.  When it comes to racism, we're not interested in listening to you defend shit.  We're not interested in hearing your self-serving "what if" situations because we're too busy contending with right-the-hell-now situations.  Why?  Because fucked-up shit is going down in America right the hell now.

I, for one, want to hear white folks out racists.  And not the racists conveniently located in parties and organizations which you don't like - no, no, no...I want to hear you out the white racists in your family, among your friends, in whichever political party you're obsessing over like damn fool.  I want to hear you out the white racists at your job, in your neighborhood, and then I want to you to show me what you're doing to get rid of such people - once and for all.

Why am I so focused on that instead of letting myself be roped into your lame attempt at a kumbaya?  Because I have to be.

As a POC living in these disunited states of ours, I have to sleep with one eye open.  In a country where an unarmed, restrained black man is murdered on video while his murderer gets two years, or a Muslim student is tasered without valid cause, or a 15-year-old Mexican-American child is gunned down by Border Patrol,  we all have to sleep with one eye open.  Just because you're in denial about the racial state of this country, doesn't mean I can be too.  I don't have that luxury.  I am Leann Johnson,  I am Sherry Sherrod, I am Mostafa Tabatabainejad, I am Sergio Hernandez Guereca, I am John T. Williams...and I am Oscar Grant (RIP to the last three).

And in light of recent and historical events, I am not even remotely interested in listening to your baseless, self-preservational, narcissistic defenses.  Come to me "defending" things concerning white politicians and racism, and I'll simply group you amongst those whom you're defending, while remembering your name and face for later.

And POC...some Fashion Tips from Moi to cut these tender moments to the quick.  Remember, this isn't an opportunity to "educate".  This is an opportunity to eviscerate.

1) Flip It

By flip it, I don't mean shout louder or start chanting bullshit slogans (like some people).  I mean flip the spot.  They approached you and put you on the spot.  So flip it - and ask some very choice questions.

"Why are you telling me this?"
"Why are you asking me this?"
"What do you hope to gain from this conversation?"
"What exactly do you want?"
"And what made you come to me, again?"
"Where are you going with this?"
"What made you think it was an intelligent idea to get on your soapbox and rant to the nearest black person?"

(Feel free to repeat as often as necessary, while following up with, "You didn't/That doesn't answer my question.")

2) Clarify

Sometimes, white people like these need a few blaringly obvious things pointed out to them.

"I'm not your therapist."
"I'm not your confessor."
"I don't care about that."
"I'm not Obama."
"You don't know me."
"We're not friends."
"We don't have a special connection."
"We're not bonding.  This isn't bringing us closer...not by a long shot."
"No, you haven't made a good impression."
"No...I don't want to end this on a positive note."

Comments

  1. BlackNarcissus11/12/10, 8:25 PM

    I have the biggest platonic crush on you. Kudos for telling the unapologetic truth of the matter! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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  2. Ankhesen... this post is FIRE!

    "1) I'm not your fucking sounding board

    How may times do black people have to tell white folks not to randomly walk up to us and basically lecture us about your thoughts on race in America? You've probably read a bunch of nostalgic memories of warm-hearted maids and mammies whom your ancestors constantly unburdened themselves to. You probably imagine those black women looked just Moi.

    Um...fuck you." **Thunderous Applause**

    Corporate culture is notorious for this and I HATED when dumb asses would approach me with that garbage.

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  3. Non-Racist White Politicians... mythical unicorn. Whatever. Honestly, even if they could possibly not be racist, it does not make a difference. I want to know what said politician is doing FOR POC. And I'll ask too. Great, you've hidden your latent racism well, Mr. or Ms. Politician, now - when's the last time you went into in communities predominately of races other than white simply to listen to what is going on there according to the residents? Ask if they can even name a problem without bringing up socioeconomic status, or how if POC would just elevate themselves in this way or that. As soon as a WP absolves himself of responsibility for what is happening in the very city or state he lives - he should absolve himself of thinking he's not racist.

    Oooh, I nearly forgot to tell you... My latest response when people bring up how "awesome" it is that the US is post-racial because of our black president is to bitterly reply, "Let me know when we elect our second black president."

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  4. Non-Racist White Politicians... mythical unicorn...My latest response when people bring up how "awesome" it is that the US is post-racial because of our black president is to bitterly reply, "Let me know when we elect our second black president."

    Bwahahahahahahahahah!!!

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  5. this this this... I seriously want to just say "shut the eff up, we ain't friends and I don't give a shit about you opinion. Don't assume that you matter to me" woosahhhh. all better lol

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  6. You need to get out of my head or pay rent. I just posted this rant the other day:

    http://witchsistah.livejournal.com/16293.html

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  7. I need to memorize 1) and 2) and repeat them until they become muscle memory cause whenever shit like this happens to me I'm usually too shocked and appalled to think of a scathing reply.

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  8. 1) I'm not your fucking sounding board and "No, you haven't made a good impression."

    I'm getting a tattoo that says both of these things and I'm going to throw it up whenever someone decides to lose their mind and start up an inane conversation on race based solely around their beliefs or what makes them "feel good". A lot of old white women are going to be shocked and offended with the quickness.

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  9. *thunderous clap* Thank you so much for making this! I mean I'm college student and I say number 1 and 2 over and over again until they get frustrated and leave. I mean seriously what the fuck. I don't want to hear it!!! You preach it girl and don't stop! You deserve all of my thanks and all of my blessings for this! You truly spoke the truth on what I've been feeling for a while now! Thank you!

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  10. i would also add liberals as well, MANY are all talk.

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  11. @ Chizzy D

    Heheheheheheh...we'll just put them in the "and whatever other bullshit label you've gone and slapped yourselves with" group.

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  12. @ Chizzy D

    I soo feel you on that. I'm in a kind of self imposed isolation right now. An acquaintance of mine has been on my drop list for awhile. He let me down for the last time. He wrings his hands at the state of race relations in this country, but in his personal acquaintance with me and my problems with it he doubts me *it must be something other than racism*, or he makes excuses for the wp involved. Plus he's so *depressed* about the state of the world, but there are many things he could do, and just doesn't want to. There isn't anything preventing him from taking some action to back up his words but I finally realized he's just full of shit.

    I took him off my facebook friends list(long before this happened) and I stopped responding to his emails requesting meetings after last week. I had a lot of respect for him prior to this, he's retired from college administration, he was Dean of Columbia at one point, and he kept it real with me about racism in this country when it was just the two of us. However when I asked him to come with me to deal with a problem at school he just threw me under a bus. I handled it on my own, but he basically admitted to me afterward that it was unfair but that I had no other choice but to accept it. I was so stunned because in the past he told me the opposite. I was so disappointed but not really surprised, there had been hints that he was BS but now that he proved it, I could finally just distance myself from him.

    We have mutual friends but I'm not talking to them either. They're all just like him, handwringing *liberal* cowards. Black and white which just disgusts me. I'm on my own as always. I don't talk to most people here, I just read a lot and do what I need to. I hate this country.

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  13. @ Witchsistah

    How's $5/month?

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  14. I will. After school is over. Sometimes I feel like doing it tomorrow. Just leaving.

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  15. @ student,
    you know i've learned alot this year. One main thing that i learned is that every ethnic group/race/whatever has two types of people. The good and the bad. That is the only way i am now measuring people. I know my own definition of good and my definition of bad. I've met ultra white conservatives that are awesome and actually do everything in their power to make this world better, and ive met Ultra white liberals, that love to speak on injustice and do zero nothing(i think it makes them superior in a twisted way)....judge individuals....i can say that here(in the middle of no where USA) i would trust some reallY super country folks, that i now call my extended family, with my life before i trust any random black, liberal, or anyone else society tells me i fit with.

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  16. reminds me of this crazy Northeast "non-racist"

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  17. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02P4OKTb3OU

    sorry i forgot to post the link

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  18. @ Chizzy D

    I'm half native american and I feel like this whole culture of self interest, succeed at all costs is not me. That's the real reason I want to leave. People like him are so narcissistic it's disgusting. It's not that they're racist per se. It's that they're indifferent, even to their own families. He has no grandchildren because his son just doesn't want kids. They don't want to adopt or foster either. So what are they living for? Just for themselves. Even though I don't want kids I want to give back to the community somehow by teaching or practicing medicine. That's how I'll give my love. But them? They don't love anything.It's a moral void. I can't put it into words but, they have no feeling. He has everything he could possibly want but he's piss poor morally.



    I know there has to be a place where people actually interact with the environment and other human beings and treat them with respect. I'll find it.

    I guess that's what I meant. I know politcal parties mean nothing when it comes to who's down for you and who isn't. It's good that you got people looking out for you. I'm a lone wolf, have been all my life since I was born under the dog star. I've accepted that it's my cross to bear. He just keeps emailing me asking if I'm alright( if the buisness with school had turned sour I would've had to drop out and not gotten my credits) and I just feel like saying,"Why do you care?" If you don't want to help fine, you don't have to be involved with the situation, but my life isn't a spectator sport."

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  19. @ Chizzy D
    But he would've been sooooooooo "wrong" for punching that bitch in the face. That would not have been me, I would be in jail.

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  20. I realize he couldn't have done that. But still.

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  21. @Student,

    The relationship you've described with ol' boy sounds like the friendship version of a backstreet relationship, the kind where a WM dates a WoC on the low-low, taking her places where no one knows him, not telling his friends or family about her, keeping her is dirty, little secret. See, he's your buddy and all anti-racist and shit, when it's just you two alone or maybe enclaved with your pseudo-liberal squad. But when it's time to put pedal to metal, money to mouth and foot to ass, he leaves you swinging in the wind, or as you say, throws you under the bus. It wasn't even a situation involving him. He could have helped is all. But he did not. What was he risking? Going against the opinions of some of his FORMER colleagues? And he wasn't about to risk that, nope, not for some cullud gal.

    You're handling the situation fine, cutting off all contact with him and any intermediaries (he'll recruit them to work on you since he can't get to you himself), refusing to answer his emails (dude is upset that you've cut yourself off from him, not because he may have upset you. He may not even consider what he did to be upsetting. If he does, then he just doesn't give a shit. This is about control now. He wants to get you back into his orbit again. He resents you're autonomous enough to ban him from yours.).

    But don't think this will teach ol' boy or his acolytes a lesson. If you're doing this, do this for YOUR peace of mind, nothing else. People like him have cognitive dissonance on speed dial. Not only does he probably NOT think he let you down at all, but he'll eventually, and quite soon, deem you to be an ungrateful darkie gal for spurning his valuable, White male friendship. To prevent himself from actually having to think about HIS part in all of this, he'll just surmise that you're an ungrateful, capricious cullud wench who threw away his friendshiph on a whim.

    We always warn BW about WM who want to have a back-alley kind of relationship with us. We need to start warning Blacks about Whites who want to have back-alley FRIENDSHIPS with us.

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  22. dude is upset that you've cut yourself off from him, not because he may have upset you. He may not even consider what he did to be upsetting. If he does, then he just doesn't give a shit. This is about control now. He wants to get you back into his orbit again. He resents you're autonomous enough to ban him from yours.)...People like him have cognitive dissonance on speed dial...

    This sounds sorta, kinda familiar.

    We always warn BW about WM who want to have a back-alley kind of relationship with us. We need to start warning Blacks about Whites who want to have back-alley FRIENDSHIPS with us.

    Check and mate.

    You really are handling this sitch well, Student. To hell with this man. If you get tired of ignoring him, send him this and it should shut him right up.

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  23. @ Witchsista and Ankensen Mie.
    I'm just not gonna respond. And this is for my own piece of mind. I'm doing alternate study on black and Native American writers, and in general I'm just doing me(any suggestions?). I got no time for fair weather friends. I work fulltime and part time on campus and I take 18 credit hours this semester. I really don't have time for all these fair weather, depressed, narcissistic, wanna be actors.


    Once he bitched out and told me to just accept the situation, he left me on my own anyway so that's his problem. I'm sure with his narcissistic martyr complex it'll be just one more reason for him to sleep 15 hours a day, wondering what happened to me.

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  24. @ Chizzy D
    In that video about the lady who attacked the postal worker
    Aren't postal workers considered federal employees?
    If a black man had done that to a white female postal worker how much do you want to bet he would've been brought up on federal charges?( I thought it was, could be considered a federal crime if you attack a federal employee, like the bus drivers in NY city) And then they fired him too?
    Ugh.
    And what makes it so bad is that people were leaving comments like, she's rude but what she said was so true about black people having lower iqs.
    *scream of aggravation*
    And they all jump to her defense even though the bitch is obviously insane. Even her neighbors say the bitch is crazy.
    Typical
    @Ankensen Mie
    do a post about this shit

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  25. ^^^Yep. (Both of my parents have worked for the post office over 25 years.)

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  26. The thing is the postal worker was the one who got fired.

    Now Whites are resorting to just plain illogic to enforce White supremacy (an illogical ideology). White person goes on a racist tirade/attack. PoC defend ourselves. PoC get all the blame and suffer all the negative consequences. Whites lie, obfuscate, twist and distort reality to come up with some explanation of why it was all the PoC's fault and absolve the offending White racist.

    There was NO way that postal worker should have been fired and that woman not charged with assault at the least. I hope that postal worker makes a complaint with the local police department and sues her ass. Want to really make Whites cry? Take away their freedom/entitlement and their MONEY. That's all they really care about

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  27. @Ankensen Mie
    do a post about this shit


    Gimme a sec...I ain't a machine now....

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  28. @ Ankensen Mie
    I know my lady. *bows* Just some of my frustration coming out. Sorry. No one expresses this frustration better than you.

    @ Witchsista
    *Whites lie, obfuscate, twist and distort reality to come up with some explanation of why it was all the PoC's fault and absolve the offending White racist.*


    Tell me about it. I can't blog about my stuff though except in generalities. Too painful. In the video she even says after she slapped him that she didn't slap him, as if it didn't happen like a second ago. Then she accuses him of making shit up?! And then she goes into the you're so inferior that I had to discipline you and put you in your place defense without missing a beat. I don't know what's more disgusting her or the people who supposedly know better but defend her anyway. Poor man. I've been where he's at.

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  29. I can't help but notice that this is the same state that arrested Henry Louis Gates. So glad that I didn't attend school there like I was planning to.

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  30. @Student,

    I used to regret that I didn't go to Harvard. But since they're acting up NOW, just think what it would have been like back in the late 1980s when I was in school! Especially near Boston?! Fuck naw!

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  31. @ Witchsista

    LOL. Right. Glad I passed on that, Buffalo NY is bad enough racism for me.

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  32. Thank you!

    Fortunately, I no longer keep any white friends so I don't need to hear their nonsense.

    When going out, I put in my earbuds without music so no one comes up to me to ask/say anything dumb.

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