Seriously, White Women...We're Really Not Jealous *Modified*

(Thanks, Peanut!!!!  She busted these out on Abagond's "Bethany Storro" post when some shithead commenters insisted that black women are inherently jealous of white women, and thus Storro's original story made perfect sense.  Yeah...I know....)

Here's a letter that's been circulating 'round the net since I was a kid.  It caused quite a stir a while back.  Some of you remember this; it was a "fan letter" from a white woman telling black women how useless and undesirable we all are and how we needed to learn from white women how to make black men happy.  And while I knew a black man had written an utterly soul-withering response to her,* I didn't know that a white woman - Elayna Monts - had also written a response to the letter, in which she took off her earrings and went off.

In case you get confused, the first message is Monts's letter to Sister 2 Sister Magazine, in which she introduces herself, then quotes the "fan letter", and then finally responds to it.
Jamie Foster Brown
SISTER 2 SISTER MAGAZINE
9301 Annapolis Road
Lanham, MD 20706-0311

Dear Ms. Brown:

An email has been circulating the net with a letter written to you and published in your newsletter. I joined in on the discussion and, much to the surprise of my sisters, responded to the writer. With much prompting by the sisters I am forwarding my response to you for your information.

I only ask that should you publish my response, you inform me so that I may purchase a copy of the issue.

Peace Be With You,
Elayna A. Monts
Executive Director
Tripp


Original "Derogatory" Email

Dear Jamie,

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.

I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male--good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black females' attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic and carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public.

I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumble just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on.

But right now I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
So my main girl wrote back:
I was recently sent this email and I also am a bit enraged.....however I am not angry with Black Woman, but by the arrogance of the writer, therefore this email is written as a response directly to her.

Dear White Woman (like me),

I guess you are angry, unfortunately or fortunately, your anger is baseless. I too am a white woman who has been blessed with a man of color and beyond blessed with a son of color. However, unlike you, I have no animosity toward my sisters of color. I hope what I am about to say educates you with information that will pull your head up out of the sand and humble your arrogance at the same time!

Oh believe that I wish that we all lived in a world that was not race conscience, but we do. I wish that I could take five minutes to shake a fraction of sense into those who, like you, extract a teeny portion of reality from life, from it paint a self-serving picture by ignoring factual information and go through life with blinders on. Doing so only creates a false sense of superiority evident in your message.

The facts are clear! On this totem pole of Amerikkkan life, the Black Woman has been forced to live hers as close to the bottom as white Amerikkka can keep her, yet she blossoms. She is considered last for employment opportunities, yet she is employed. Last for housing, yet maintains a loving home. She has been misused and abused by society, rejected and dejected by ignorant on-lookers, such as yourself and that "man" you have, and despite continued efforts to thwart her advancement, she advances. How many lil white Miss Annes could make such a claim? Please!!!!!

I'm happy for you...you found what you deserve, a man who apparently is able to look beyond his mother, sisters and grandmothers and misinform you as he has. In addition, this man who feeds you swill as if edible food, dismisses his own future because believe me Miss, should you and this "good-looking, educated, and loving man" produce a female child she will, in THIS society, grow up to be a BLACK WOMAN who will carry with her all the historical tribulations of her foremothers. Don't kid yourself into believing anything less! Given your understanding/feelings about Black Women, I see much time spent with a therapist in your girl-child's future. Fact is, I would hope that few women, black or white would be as blind to this man's interior as you are smitten by his exterior. Who in their right mind would want a man that disrespects his history as boorishly as yours?

It is only tooooooo clear that you base your "argument" on your man's opinion alone. After reading your statement/belief that Black Women are "too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic and carrying too much excess baggage", I can only come to the conclusion that you really DON'T know any Black Woman. In fact, Black woman have a sense of strength that we will never be able to understand or achieve simply because our whiteness (protection in this society) prevents us from being forced to develop that kind of strength. They are loving, kind, caring with a sense of commitment to family that white woman can only dream of achieving. The white family never had the "stick-to-it"ness of a matriarch such as the Black Woman...ohhhhhh nooooo as history would have it...we left raising our families to the same Black Women that you abhor. IF anything, we should be thankful in that whomever we have become as a nation, we owe to them!!!

They are beautiful ebony diamonds that we break our necks to emulate all summer long, day after day, hour after hour sunning ourselves only to lose that hue to cold shadowy days or skin cancer, while they maintain that sweet ebony tone gifted by God alone. Ohhhh but we try nonetheless!!!

The real deal is, my life wouldn't have any semblance of meaning nor be complete without the strong friendships and patient teachings afforded me by every Black Woman whom I have been blessed to know.

In fact, I dare suggest that the "wonderful" man you claim to have, may be book smart but is life stupid. I further suggest that his "slim pickings" belief is a blessing to every Black Sister on the planet in that he is misled by his own stupidity. I also noted that your very first description of him was not that he was God-filled, loving, kind, or even educated but "good looking" and, in my opinion, that gives us a clue as to your priorities in life. Relationships should be built on an agape love...yes, beyond race and within soul. I dare say you and your intended have what appears to be a foundationless relationship and I fail to believe that there is one single Black Woman who would be envious of that!

I also find it interesting that you state that Black men wined and dined and gave you the world and go on to say that Black Women should change themselves to gain those same benefits. What a whitewashed fantasy you live in! The fact is, from early on in the history of Black Women in this country, Black Sisters have had to endure and survive tribulations that should compel the likes of us white women, to view them in the highest regard, yet it is evident in your letter that we don't.

You speak from the pedestals of our sheltered lives. You sit there in all your ignorant "glory", too far up there on the white man-made pedestal of life, that began during the plantation days and continues through modern day times, and dare exude arrogance as if you are someone? Wake up, dear woman, come down off the pedestal and take a real look at life. Not recognizing the tribulations endured by Black Women should fill you with shame . Instead you chastise them for their courage. The strength of Black Women should manifest admiration and respect from you as our lack of experience has hindered us from ever knowing the potency of that strength!

You ask what is so appealing about us? In fact, you beg for reinforcement of your own insecurities when you ask to hear 'why you are so appealing' from Black Men. Foolish woman!!!! The appeal is that white woman, without the education FROM our Black Sisters, demand far less of and for ourselves than they do. Believe this...WITHOUT them and their guidance, we become you.

I too am angry, but my anger stems from your arrogance. Wake up my dear, get a real grip on reality. Better yet, GET GOD and get humbled. Step down out of the clouds and realize, as you smugly look down on the world....the higher up you believe yourself to be, the lonelier and more painful the fall to reality is. Believe me when I say, your reality check will come during your lifetime....through your children!

Elayna A. Monts
*is dead*

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*Yes, yes, I know...some of you want to know what the black man wrote.  Here it is...brace y'allselves.
Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation
and have recently purchased a house.

So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight
of why Black men date white women.

Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle.

So, they turned to the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control. A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control & walk over their white women.

I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, David Bowie, Chris Noth, George Lucas, Mike Nilon, Roderick Spencer, Matthew Modine, Vladimir Doronin, Wolfgang Puck, Justin Chambers, Peter Norton, Gabriel Aubrey, Robin Thicke, to name a few (Note***some of these names have been added in recent years to these list; suggested blog for chocolate/vanilla swirlers: "Just Like Me Couples").

I just don't want A Disgusted White Girl to be misinformed. Stop thinking that because you are 20 and white, you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitocris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.*

Read your history! It was the Black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.**

Black women were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!***

It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them that I find most appealing about Black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.

I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous like Black women?

...I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE:

If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles.

I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and, unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given. Signed,

Black Royalty
*ROFLMAO
**And yet, how quickly they forget!
***Baby...you ain't kiddin'.

Comments

  1. I remember reading this at topix the african-american forum, and I felt the same way then as I do now, not surprised. I like the man's response as well as the woman's, not all, but alot of white women feel as though they are better and such and such, but God didn't make any mistakes when he made Black women. Your posts are always full of inspiration. Thank you Moi.

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  2. I remember this from my freshman year of college 1998-1999. At the time I subscribed to Sister 2 Sister magazine and read the original letter before it was forwarded in emails.

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  3. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks.

    No doubt. She seems absolutely floored that a black man could want a black woman at all.

    Look no further than the reason behind her writing that letter. It's not enough for her to be on one man's pedestal, she has to seek out the potential pedestals of other black men.

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  4. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better.

    'Tis the type of ish that'll make an afro hurt.

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  5. OK, I have to relate a recent experience. I have written several blog posts about the issue of racism in white women who date Black man, particularly racism directed at Black women. As a white woman who does date Black men, I saw this time and time again, and have ended up with a very negative perception of most interracial relationships because of it. So, I addressed a post to white women who act this way. Of course, I got the usual protestations from white women who swore I was all wrong, and how dare I say anything about them like that. Then, more surprisingly, I was confronted by two Black men, at least one of whom claims to be married to a Black woman, who basically told me I was foul for writing about white women like that... AND that it was innappropriate because "Black women don't need your help, they are not children". My post was not meant to imply that anyone "needed" me, I was simply expressing something that I felt needed to be said. Funny thing is, the messages I got from Black females were positive. It seemed like the only people who had an issue with what I wrote were white females and a few Black men!

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  6. "Black women were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise"!

    Better believe it!!!

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  7. @ Joanna

    Keep on preaching. If you upset white women and some Black men, you know you were having a real effect.

    They expect black women to go off. They've got their "jealousy mantra" down pat and they're not letting go. So white chicas like you need to continue going off and not letting them get away with this type of BS thinking.

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  8. Joanna,

    Many BW could tell you all sorts of stories about encounters with BM/WW couples. Many of us have had said couples position themselves so that we could not miss them, make out in front of us periodically glancing at us for that evil, jealous, nigger bitch reaction. I cannot tell you the looks of chagrin I got when my White date would show up and poop all over their rile-up-a-Negress party. I thought, "Is THIS your GREAT FORBIDDEN LOVE?! Really?"

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  9. See, those chicks piss me off SO BADLY..... they don't want to have ANYTHING to do with Black women, or Black people in general UNLESS it is a man they are sleeping with! Sickening. At first I kept wondering WHY I would look online and here these stories from white women SWEARING up and down that Black women were oh so jealous... then I started looking more closely and recognizing that this women were instigators. The were giving dirty looks to Black women, they were running around claiming that white women were better partners for Black men, they were looking at their children and acting like they were superior for being BIRACIAL instead of Black (Which is why I hate the term biracial so much!) I guess the reason I look at things the way I do is because a lot of my closest friends were Black females LONG BEFORE I ever dated a Black man. It seems like with a lot of these women the first time they ever spent any time with a Black person was when they were sleeping with one!

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  10. Yep they are so easy it's ridiculous.That
    why the chase WW because they're weak insecure little bytches( the ones that are not all of them) Men like this just piss me off by how fucking lazy they are. Then they want to cry to you when they get justifiable disciplined by life. Please. I don't even want to get married. I think that bullshit is just an excuse for institutions like religion and the state to control your private life. I was born free Im going to live free love free and die free. But that's just my cynical opinion

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  11. Joanna,

    You ain't nevah lied! Too many BM/WW couples jump on ANYTHING as "proof" that BW are jealous of them and hate on their love. On one online forum, many BW there said it got to the point where we don't even acknowledge that kind of couple's existence when we're out and about. My last straw came when I was at an SCA event all dressed up in my Tudor, and I saw a BM/WW couple there. Hell, I ain't gonna lie, I was so happy to see another PoC at those things. I smiled wamly at them and gave them my Tudor head-knod as a "hello" acknowledgement.

    Them mofos frowned up at me and started whispering to each other. The words I caught told me they thought I was FLIRTING with dude! At the time, I was on the ARM of my White then-boyfriend/now husband! When I heard what they'd surmised I gave them the "You've GOT to be shitting me!" look, gave him the derisive up and down, sucked my teeth as if to say, "Nigga AND bitch, PLEASE!", rolled my eyes and hugged up closer to MY man. I heard and saw them from the corner of my eye move away from us.

    I told my man what had happened and he just rolled his eyes. Whenever we ran into them at the event, we pretended like they were air. That got to ol' girl because she tried striking up a conversation with my later about my garb (I got NICE garb) complimenting me on it. I didn't even say thank you. I think I just looked at her, grunted "Hmmph," and walked away.

    That day established two of my rules 1)never, EVER acknowledge or have anything to do with a BM/WW couple in any way, shape or form unless you must and 2)never try to talk to PoC at predom White events (or events where one would not expect to see PoC) because it ruins their Highlander moment.*

    Joanna, you also sound like you're truly FRIENDS with the BW you know, that you're in reciprocal relationships with them. Most of the time, WW either want to use BW as pet Negroes to mammy them, step, fetch and carry for them and to use them as "proof" they're not racist, or to try to get to the BM the BW may know. It's rare for a WW to attempt a deeper relationship with a BW that is non-exploiting or all about showing that the WW is indeed superior.



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    *A lot of PoC at those kind of events get all hyped up because they're the ONLY PoC there which they interpret to mean that they're special or somehow better than other PoC or are some sort of "chosen one" by the Whites at the event. When they see another PoC at said event, especially one of their race/racial make-up that ruins the moment for them for, in their minds, "THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!!!"

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  12. And don't EVEN get me started on the whole "multiracial/biracial" movement started and propelled by WW with kids of color! Funny, how after CENTURIES of BW bearing half-White babies, our kids were always considered good an' Negro, even being relegated to slavery based on "the condition of the mother." Now, WW are laying down with Black men and taken aback that their babies pop out with some Negro features. I guess some folks missed that whole section in science class where they talked about genetics and Dr. Gregor Mendel's experiments with pea plants and the whole fruit flies thing.

    Well, they can't stand the idea that they had niggers for babies so they had to try and "elevate" them above mere niggerdom. Hence them stessing their kids' "biraciality" as if they're the first ones to ever have mixed kids in the whole history of fucking.

    That's why, even though I'll have mixed kids with my husband (Great Goddess willing), I cannot get behind the "multiracial" movement and it's anti-Black hatred. To hear those folks tell it, Blacks are the sole reason why Whites won't accept them and elevate them to White status. I guess that's what they tell themselves. So if they can't have White status, they'll take better-than-Black status like the Coloreds in South Africa and the gens de couleur libres in 18th and 19th century Louisiana.

    Naw, my kids are going to be Black like their mom.

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  13. @Witchsistah:

    See? That's why I don't go to most gaming cons or Ren Faires or anything like that. If it's not the White folks looking at you all crazy (that "What the fuck are you doing here?" look), the POCs might have issues with my Black ass too.

    That, and I'm too broke to dress up. And I don't need some bougie looking down their nose at me if I make do with what I got.

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  14. @RVCBard,

    Girl, I just now go and look fly and DARE any mofo to say BOO to me. I was there yesterday and got soooooo many compliments on my garb from the folks who WORK there and the patrons. Of course, there were a group of Negroes there (patrons, not employees) who HAD to do the "WTF you think YOU doin' dressed up like that?" look and snicker and whisper amongst themselves. Just then, a group of White patrons came up and complimented me on my outfit and asked where I got each item. I gave those townie-ass Negroes my "find the Blackest part of my ass and kiss it" look. I don't put much stock into what local Negroes say because most of them act like the Union soldiers ain't come around and told them they were free yet. So of course they're gonna balk at any Black person who doesn't stay in the tiny, narrow Acting-Black box.

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  15. Loving this post I too have gotten the look from WW/BM here were 2 instances that made me want die with laughter.

    1) I was coming out of Tesco with my shopping bags and walkingthrough the IKEA shortcut car park and I noticed something bright from the corner of my eye and low and behold some black guy was wearing a pair of tight yellow skinny jeans! This shocked me so I was just looking back and forth because WOW who wears tight yellow skinny jeans in the rain? So I hear this boy kiss his teeth and then puts his arm around his girlfriend who I didn't even notice before coz hello yellow jeans was a distraction.

    2) Me and my girls mostly black and three Asian girls were out and about waiting for our bus to come then we notice one girl wearing a cute jacket and then we started thinking where she got her coat and my friend decided to go and ask her, But this girl and her boyfriend walked up to us saying that we should get over ourselves and how we shouldn’t jealousing them. Really? I mean they were not even good looking seriously the only thing that was cute about them was the chick’s coat. We laughed in their faces telling them just what we thought of them. Didn’t help that they got on the same bus as us and we did not keep quiet and told other people on the bus what happened to embarrass them. Those were good times man.
    As for the letter, Tyson Beckford’s current girlfriend is black, Larry/Laurence Fishburne’s wife is Gina Torres and last time I checked is black too. And I swear down that Wesley Snipes always gone for Asian women

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  16. I hope ya'll don't mind one brotha's opinion lol.

    As a black man it makes me uneasy to see another black man with a white woman especially the less-than-attractive ones. I said to myself, "What the hell?"

    Anyway, the issue of brothas dating WW has always been important with me. I always hear the "race/color doesn't matter" slogan over and over, and in the not-too-distant past, I agreed. However, I wasn't aware that race is a major issue today, so major that most people don't want to face it, especially WW.

    We live in a society where whiteness, or characteristics of whiteness, represent beauty. WW are always put on pedestals by media and fashion outlets. However, at the same time, they are used as sex objects in the world of porn. A perfect example would be the Girls Gone Wild series. Despite, that, WW are still seen positively over 90% of the time.

    I think the way society portrays WW plays a significant role in black men/WW hook-ups. While society uplifts WW, they condemn black women. What's sad is some of the condemnation comes from within the black community. It's part of the continuous brainwashing and mental oppression that's dividing us, and I'm personally sick of it.

    Thankfully, there are scores of brothas that love black women. However, the struggle is far from over.

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  17. I guess I was trying to say that white women will always THINK that their overall existance is better than that of other woman in a society that uplifts them and boosts their egos. They, like their male counterparts, will continue to believe that they are either perfect or better than other people. Why? Because they want to even at the cost of other people's self-esteems and lives.

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  18. @ Will

    I see so few black men who are into black women - for more than just sex - that I'm fairly certain they're becoming extinct.

    *shrug* Que sera, I guess.

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  19. In fact, here's my behind at the Kansas City Renaissance Faire from just this past Sunday:

    http://s89.photobucket.com/albums/k221/witchsistah/?action=view&current=Meat2010RenFaire.jpg

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  20. Since you were talking about Rennaisance fairs and how you are often the only POC there, I wanted to mention, there is a show (now cancelled) called HUGE on ABC Family. The Black teenage girl on the show tries to get her other friends into LARPing and other forms of role play. I kind of wanted to applaud them a bit for breaking outside of the realm of stereotypes.

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  21. @Joanna

    HUGE is cancelled? I really liked that show, I watched it over the summer, I could totally relate to the black girl there, being all shy and geeky and all. I'm sad now, it was nice to see a differernt type of representation.

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  22. @aiyo- yes it is unfortunately. I was fond of the show because it defied a lot of stereotypes. As a fat woman, I am so sick of seeing every fat person portrayed as a sad, pathetic person with no social life whose main goal is to be skinny! But, a lot of people hated the show because it showed fat people in a more positive light... and believe it or not, a lot of the people who were so against the show were fat people... they felt like it was mocking big people instead of defying current media images.

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  23. Thank you SO much for sharing this! Elayna's letter was SO BEAUTIFUL! I was floored! I second that therapy bit... being mixed (Korean & Black), I had trouble fitting in, and having people comment about my skin tone, hair, weight etc... did NOT help at all! I really hope the ignorant girl isn't still ignorant, especially if she's going to have kids. Nobody needs to pass down this kind of ignorant and hateful thinking down on their children. :(

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  24. I had an incident similar to Aiyo also involving an IKEA store. Basically I was in town visiting my best friend whom I hadn't seen in a year. So we are walking around IKEA laughing and talking when we round a corner and see this terrified black man. Like seriously I have never seen a grown man look at me with such fear. So after we've passed him I ask my friend what his deal was. She said maybe he expected us to say something about the white woman he was with. I hadn't even noticed his companion! What did he think we would do, maul them in an IKEA? We were just to smiling laughing black women out shopping and he thinks we are consumed by jealous rage.

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  25. Elayna Monts10/25/10, 8:09 PM

    So......I AM ELAYNA MONTS.......yup that's me...the one who got sooooo angry at that letter that I just couldn't resist.....what was said? taking my earings off and got busy.....smile......I am amazed that that letter was written in like 2002 or something and I cannot tell you how many responses I have received since then.....from as far away as South Africa, India, Europe and of course the U.S......but you have to admit that TRUTH can never be stopped.

    I am the mother of two African American men.....both married to African American Women and I am the grandmother of 5 beautiful grandchildren....you think I was going to be quiet about this? NOT A CHANCE!! For those of you who wish to contact me directly, I can be emailed at shavsha@hotmail.com Bless you all and stay as beautiful as you are....much love...e

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  26. @ Elayna,

    Thanks for stopping by!!!!

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  27. Seriously my pleasure. Love your site!!!

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  28. Is it wrong that I cried from this? I have searched the internet after masochistically looking at "Why are black woman jealous of white women?" Topics. It hurt when I read some of the comments from the women and men but my search led me to this. I'm truly happy I looked.

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  29. elayna monts12/5/10, 10:22 PM

    Miki....please believe me when i say that not all of "us" are fools ....my sisters of color have been pivotal in my ability to raise a fine son and now proudly watch as my 5 grandchildren take shape.....I have truly been blessed and I hope what i wrote proves that "we" are not all fools.

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  30. Elayna,

    I'm glad not all of you are fools. But it's hard to find WW in real life who aren't. But then, it's hard as hell to find people period who aren't fools nowadays.

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  31. To all the white trolls who keep coming to this ancient post, I've actually spoken with Elayna Motts (now Raphael) quite a few. Yes, she is a white woman. She's a white woman with some goddamn sense.

    Deal with it.

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