Black Women, I Don't Get It
So writes the infamous Abagond on his 4-year-old post, whose hundreds of comments have strayed horribly - yet predictably - from the original topic. Despite his little hiccup about our hair, I've just gotta commend the man. While the topic derailing is present, I'm surprised the trolls weren't out in full force, exploiting even the tiniest loophole to keep from being deleted.
"Black women are the most beautiful women in the world. I know many will disagree with that, but to me it only seems like common sense: they are the only women who have a full figure, the body shape that a woman should have. Women from other parts of the world are beautiful too, but they are all missing one thing or other that black women have."
Of course, posts like these draw out the "thankful" in black women who feel insecure about their looks. Um...we're black women. A black man extolling our virtues is the natural-goddamn-order of things. Don't get it twisted just because some of our brethren caught the 'phobe flu and strayed. I mean, ladies, you've got to stop and ask yourselves - really ask yourselves: What the fuck do we have to be insecure about? Whom the hell do we have to jealous of - Bethany Storro? *snort*
If you recall, Witchsistah wrote a powerful guest post which spurred on an intense discussion about black female insecurity. Seriously, ladies...we as a group need to get over our insecurities. I'm out on the blogosphere, surfing YouTube, seeing one brilliant black woman after the other and just not getting how we - as a group - still have "issues". Before you drop the knee-jerk "media" response, remember that media has drastically evolved over the last two decades. We may not be on network TV or many good films, but we're all over the nets.
So we can't be having "issues". We need to be rid of our "issues". Last I checked, we were the reason other women have "issues". So black women, let's talk Fashion Tips. How can we move past the insecurities? And what can we do for ourselves and one another to expedite the process?
|Notorious Lil S.I.S.|
Ladies, we gotta go natural. And by natural, I don't automatically mean rocking a 'fro or buzzing it all to the quick. I'm not saying we can't sport braids, Nubian twists, Senegalese twists (depicted right), or multicolored cornrows or such. There's nothing wrong with adding synthetic hair to accentuate an African hairstyle; I mean, we've been doing that since Nefertiti's day. I'm just saying the Asian weaves and toxic relaxers have got to go.
As I stated on Abagond's post, we don't need the hair other women have. We've got hair nobody else has, and we need to pimp each and every last coil. It's no coincidence that the hair products most widely marketed towards black women break the hair and the spirit at the same time. Breaking women and people of color has been a favorite hobby of the West for quite a while now.
Seriously, ladies...our hair is just too beautiful. And it's ours...no one else's. Why do you think people obsess over it so much, and have done so for centuries? Our hair is one of those many unique gifts we got in the Beginning, and we need to be grateful for that. If weaves and relaxers can break both hair and spirit, imagine what simply going natural can do? I've never felt more beautiful in my entire life than I do right now.
You don't have to shave your head, you know. That's for the hardcore womenfolk. You can put your hair in braids until sufficient new growth comes in, and then have a stylist hack the rest (that's what the lil sis and I did). After that, maintenance becomes ridiculously quick and easy. The organic shampoos, conditioners, and hair milks of Bee Mine and the Califia Line at Komaza are staples in our household. Needless to say, we should support black beauty suppliers; the money is better spent that way, and the products are more than worth it.
So that's my Fashion Tip: go natural. What's yours?