Nita "Jade" Hanson Seriously Screwed Up

Miz Nita is too pretty to be puttin' up with this bull.
Black women...let me holla atchu for a minute.

By now, many of us have gone out with some white dudes.  *raises hand*  Some of us didn't really want to, but we thought, "Aw, heck...why not?"  And when we dipped our toes in the water, we knew to proceed with caution.  We remembered The Protocol: You suss him out, and the moment he does or says something which raises a rebel flag, you know it's time to stop seeing him.  You certainly don't go and marry him.

See, I was on Abagond reading about "Dr. Laura and the N-Word" and to be honest, I'm more horrified with the black woman who called in than I am with Laura.  You know, I actually Googled Miss Thang here and while I'm seeing the part where she went on her pointless little press war-path with Dr. Laura, I'm not seeing the part where she bitch-slapped her husband with a divorce.  See, kids, while venting all her marital frustration at Laura, Miz Nita failed to realize her little mission will never bear any fruit.  Witchsistah said it best:
This is NOT a hint for White folks to reform themselves. We've been asking that of them for the past 400 years. They've had more than enough time, chances and notice. After a while, you have to come to a conclusion that either WP are too stupid to understand or that they just don't care and don't want to change.
Indeed...they do not.

Nita Hanson fucked up, children, and now she's leveling her misdirected dissatisfaction at Laura.  'Cause, y'all...let's be real: Miz Nita ain't gettin' satisfied.  If her man ain't standin' up for her to his friends and family, it's highly unlikely he's standin' up anywhere else.

Now as for Laura herself, what's to say?  She's a white American who was being overtly racist and is now whining about her First Amendment rights - so what else is new?  I get  it if white people were "shocked", but a black woman?  In America?  *chuckles*  Y'all saw how Nita  didn't call in a black show with her problem; she knows good and well what we would've told her.

Nita married a white guy who lets his friends and family be racially offensive around her.  He doesn't correct them.  He doesn't educate them.  Even though it's his job, both as a husband and white person.  But clearly, Miz Nita married the white guy who makes black women always think twice - and then six or seven more times  - about dating white men.  Clearly, she married a white guy who doesn't think she's worth protecting.  After all, she's only his black wife; you don't have to treat the dark ones right, you know. They don't deserve a damn thing.

Seriously, kids...the mere thought of their marriage makes my flesh crawl.  I mean, you've got to wonder what creepy-ass reason he drummed up to marry her in the first place.  Like, does he have master-slave fantasies?  'Cause...ewwwwwwww.

She swore oaths of love to this man, walked down the aisle with this man...she sleeps with this man, guys.  She endures the racism of his friends and family by day (and by extension, his own, for being a silent accomplice), and then at night she gets naked, lies down with him, and actually lets him touch her.  Like...ewwwwwwww!!!!!!

Seriously...I think I'm gonna be sick.

Comments

  1. Girl, I've been wondering about "Jade"'s ass since I first saw the transcripts of the interchange between her and La-La. I'll just copy/paste what I said on LJ's "interracial" forum:

    Now, I'm wondering about the sistah who even BOTHERED calling La-La's ass. Between her bullshit hubby and appealing to La-La, she sounds like one of those PoC that value White approval over any and everything. They will drink WP's dirty-ass bathwater instead of clear water from a PoC's stream.

    I'm sure her hubby wasn't some great defender of hers and then just shut the hell up after the wedding. I'm sure there was some racial fuckery going on before the vows, but ol' girl probably was so damn caught up over having her a real, live WM all to herself that she ignored all that shit including the NON-action from her prospective hubby.

    How many times have I told mofos, if you ain't satisfied with what you got in a partner beforehand, then you best be on to the next one. Because dude/chicky ain't gon' change. If anything, folks get WORSE after them vows are said. The mofo that belched like a foghorn at the table will probably belch AND fart now y'all hitched. If you can't stand gassy bastids, then you shoulda cut homey off when you learned.

    She probably thought him wanting to marry her ass said something major. Mofos get married for some MESSED UP ass reasons nowadays. Hell, at least, back in the day, heffas married for food, clothing and shelter. Now peeps are marrying cuz dude got bow-legs or chicky's got tig-ass bitties or some simple ish. So yes, I do believe there are mofos that'd get in an IRR for some jacked up reasons and even marry for those reasons. Hell, Jason Volpe, one of the cops that sodomized Amadou Diallo with a broom handle was engaged to a BW at the time. Mofos, especially men, can compartmentalize ish like mad. By some convoluted reasoning, they truly feel that their "love" for their Black partner does not reflect on their animosity in general towards Blacks as a whole. Somehow their partner is an exception (until they do something to piss the so-and-so off and then they're just a regular ol' ni88er like the rest of them).

    Now if ol' girl married some simple or cowardly bastid that ain't said shit yet to his foul friends and relations, then she needs to face the fact of whom she married and either chill in the cut or start making them moves to be out. And then, have a better, tighter selection process in future.

    But I still suggest she take it to dude in a way that lets him know he needs to start sticking up for her. Cuz if he won't stick up for her then he won't stick up for their kids. Then what? I can't be in a "family" where it's my hubby and the White folks on one side and ni88er me and my ni88er kids on the other.

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  2. As you well know, I'm married to a WM, and BEFORE we married, I vetted his ass and sussed him out. I was WAITING for him to act a fool too like all the others had. But it didn't happen. He actually did what he said he was gonna do and stood up for me to his family, even not talking to a whole side of 'em because of their views on interracial marriage. AND he presented me to his smart family as if I were a rare jewel he was lucky to get with the definite undertone of "If you want to see me again, you'll fuckin' act right to and around her!"

    Girl, if you feel sick over this then don't watch her CNN interview. You'll loose your lunch, breakfast and midnight snack. First of all, her hubby wasn't NO WHERE TO BE FOUND during that interview. Second, she rhapsodizes that they've been married for "three wonderful years!" Bitch, it obviously ain't that damn wonderful if dude can't even bother to make his kinfolk playact like they see you as a fellow human being! AND yo' White-folk worshippin' ass is callin' Dr. Bigot Laura for advice! And how much you wanna bet she STILL ain't said shit to her hubby, though I'm sure dude knows there's a problem by now? I bet that subject is now dead and she's just gonna continue to bite her tongue so she don't lose her WM she managed to land.

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  3. Reminds me of that Asian women who had a child with a white guy, and the white guy kept calling his own daughter chink.

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  4. I feel another post coming on....

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  5. @ Witchsistah

    LMAO!!!!! DAMMIT I LOVE THIS WOMAN!.

    girl you nailed it, thank you. that was what i was thinking when i first heard of this mess. I never listened to the phone call because i can already guessed what happened...shoot, if those years were so wonderful you wouldn't be in this mess to begin with. I really hate to be like this toward this woman but seriously come on, issues like that needs to be discussed with your HUSBAND! don't call a radio show expecting sound advice. And just like you Witchsistah, I am married to a white man and I had the common sense to VET him four times more than i would any other man due to situations like this...Cuz i damned sure did not want to end up in jail!!!

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  6. And just like you Witchsistah, I am married to a white man and I had the common sense to VET him four times more than i would any other man due to situations like this...Cuz i damned sure did not want to end up in jail!!!

    Ain't that The Protocol, though? What the hell is this? What is wrong with Nita? Seriously...was she adopted? Does she not have any black friends? Did those heffas not tell her what's up?

    Did her husband whoop her ass after she exposed all their dirty laundry? Is that why she's talking that "three wonderful years" bullshit? Did his family threaten her or some shit? Man...if she thought her life with them was hell before....

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  7. Moi,

    I wouldn't be surprised if she's someone who learned to shun other Black folks from a very young age in order to get in with White people--the catch is that you have to be the proverbial whipping boy forever. She seems relatively young, and she reminds me of people I go to school with whose parents told them to stay away from (other) Black people and to "brush off" the messed up stuff White people do. With the Black women, bad goes to worse, because those girls learn pretty quickly how to be the token Black chick among their group of White girls and to thank their lucky stars (and invest in iron cuffs) if a White guy were to ever deign to pay them any attention.

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  8. @ Jasmin

    I shudder to think of black parents pulling that shit and fucking up their kids for life.

    Every time I think of Nita I literally feel a wave of nausea and have to resist the urge to spew a fountain of vomit.

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  9. "three wonderful years"

    How the fuck is it so wonderful when he lets his friends and family say "nigger" around her?

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  10. Does she not have any black friends? Did those heffas not tell her what's up?


    Girl, even if she did or at least some sistas TRIED to hip her to what was up, her ass probably decided to interpret it as those Black bitches being JEALOUS of her "popularity" with WP. Or that they were trying to Soul Patrol her.

    Hell, I, caridad AND Jasmin could have gone up to her and said, "Sista, now you know good and damn well we don't care what color man or woman you date. It ain't like WE can spout any 'stay with your own kind' ish. But DAMN! You GOTS ta get a better selection process. That mofo ain't standing up for you. And NO, that is NOT natural! Nor is it something we can't expect our White partners to do. Ours defend and stand up for us because they are happy and PROUD to be with us and SHOW it! But yours ain't, and that's a problem NOW! Forget 'going to be' one!" And that heffa would swear we were tryna keep her from WM and wanted to be the only cullud gals with rings on our fingers from WM or some such shit.

    I've seen it happen and had it happen to me. When it comes to love, folks are just gon' hafta bust they own ass.

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  11. And you know what "vetting" is? It's simply paying attention to what a mofo DOES and NOT blowing off inconsistencies and shit that's off. Folks make it sound like it's doing background checks, bugging his home, office and phones or some type of spy/ninja ish.

    The problem is folks don't wanna deal with the observations turn up problems and issues. They don't want to confront the person and they don't want to leave. But sometimes you got to do both. And most chicks don't wanna say shit to their man about it (like ol' girl) because they already KNOW what the answer's gonna be. Which means the ball is now in their corner. They now have the choice to put up with the behavior since it's not gonna change, or leave the relationship.

    Ankh, I wouldn't be surprised if she got a "correction" from her husband. Notice, none of the interviewers have asked if her issue has been resolved.

    All this shit has done is made me hug and kiss my husband more often!

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  12. When it comes to love, folks are just gon' hafta bust they own ass.

    Cosign this. I've learned that some people just need to fall--HARD--before they get it. Because if I say that dude is trifling, then I'm just trying to "save all of the White boys for myself".

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  13. Menelik Charles8/29/10, 6:03 PM

    Witchsistah said at Abagond's:

    I wonder how much vetting Jade did of her husband before they married. These types of issues don’t just crop up after marriage. Was he like this beforehand?

    Menelik replies:

    I have little doubt that Jade is an assimilated, colour-blind, sista who was grateful to render her race and colour redundant; first via her marriage to a white man, and second, via her womb.

    Why do you see fit to attach a level of consciousness, and self-respect, to a woman who clearly has very little? I mean, she did phone Dr Laura for advice, right? A Black woman phoning a white woman about a problem of race created by white people? How naive was that?

    Witchsistah said at Abagond:

    you treat Jade as though she were a child who has no business to make her own decisions about her life because she’s not living it the way you want her to. Or as if she were mindless, and the proof is her having married a White man.

    Menelik replies:

    "as a child"? "If she were mindless" because she's married to a white man? I treat Jade as an assimilated Black woman. Nothing. More. Nothing. Less. Let's see what your opinion of her is.

    Witchsistah said:

    girl, I've been wondering about "Jade"'s ass since I first saw the transcripts between her and La-La. I'll just copy/paste what I said on LJ's "interracial" forum:

    I'm wondering about the sistah who even BOTHERED calling La-La's ass. Between her bullshit hubby and appealing to La-La, she sounds like one of those PoC that value White approval over any and everything. They will drink WP's dirty-ass bathwater instead of clear water from a PoC's stream.

    Menelik asks:

    can I say you seem to be treating Jade like some "mindless child" who made the "wrong decision" by marrying this particular white male? I mean, what are we saying that is so different, madam? I just don't get it.

    Menelik Charles
    London England

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  14. Jasmin,

    I was on IR sites that catered to BW. The vast majority of men who commented were White. Oftentimes they'd say something stupid, or at least problematic. When I or another, usually committed BW would say something about what the commenter posted, we'd get attacked by a gaggle of desperate-ass BW telling us to leave that White man alone or else we'd scare him and all the other WM not only off the site but away from BW!.

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  15. Yup...that other post is definitely coming.

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  16. @Witchsistah:

    I was on IR sites that catered to BW. The vast majority of men who commented were White. Oftentimes they'd say something stupid, or at least problematic. When I or another, usually committed BW would say something about what the commenter posted, we'd get attacked by a gaggle of desperate-ass BW telling us to leave that White man alone or else we'd scare him and all the other WM not only off the site but away from BW!

    Damn, that sounds almost exactly like what happened here.

    Privilege is a hellava drug.

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  17. Menelik Charles,

    You seem to think the only "proof" needed that a BW is "assimilated" is her being partnered with a White person. If I saw her out and about with her White hubby (and not recognizing her or knowing her from Dr. La-La), I wouldn't automatically think, "there goes a weak-minded, White-worshipping, BW." But you would because, to you, that's the only reason why ANY (and every) BW would be with a WM.

    I'm not looking at her being with a WM but what KIND of WM she's with, one that won't stick up for her. And I do not believe that problem is a recent one. Issues like those are long term. That was there BEFORE the "I do"s. So why didn't she say ish then? Did it bother her then? If not why is it bothering her now? If so, yet again, WHY DIDN'T SHE SAY SHIT TO HIM THEN?

    I ALSO wondered why she thought Dr. Laura was going to treat her any better than she would have any other Black caller? What made her think she'd be the exception to Dr. Laura's rule? And "Jade" said she had been a fan of La-La's for YEARS, so she knew La-La's deal.

    These things make me wonder about Jade. It wasn't just "Oh, dumb, misguided BW with a WM. CASE CLOSED!"

    Also, I'm not treating Jade as though she had no right to be with whom she wanted. Her body and feelings are hers to share then with whom she wishes. If she wants to share them with someone who won't stick up for her, so be it. But don't complain about it later on. I'm not implying "well that's what she gets for being with a WM" like you AND Dr. Laura are.

    You're arguing from the standpoint that BW do not own our own selves. We belong to Black men and have only the right to choose from a pool of BM with whom we shall partner. And if we partner with WM, it MUST invariably be because we are White-washed, White-worshipping assimilationists.

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  18. Her body and feelings are hers to share then with whom she wishes. If she wants to share them with someone who won't stick up for her, so be it. But don't complain about it later on.

    Amen.

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  19. And, as you know Ankh, I feel that way about ANYONE that wants to complain about shit from their partners they BEEEEEEEN puttin' up with (especially if they got funky with folks when others pointed that ish out to them in the past). That's not the same as treating them like they need ME to tell them which person to be with.

    I've also said "Don't put all ya business in the street and then get mad when people talk about it!"

    And even after all my posts and comments, Jade is gonna do what JADE wants to do. Not what Witchsistah, Jasmin, caridad, Natasha W, Ankhesen Mie or Menelik Charles want her to do. SHE gotta live with that man. Not us!

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  20. RVCBard,

    Wow. Just wow. (I actually read that article when it was first linked on Racialicious, but there were only 20 comments at the time and I just skimmed them and didn't go back.) I'll leave the rest of my comments on your blog.

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  21. My biggest concern is for those kids if they ever have any. Because that racism won't go away, the husband isn't going to do a damn thing about protecting his family and clearly Nita isn't going to do what needs to be done.

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  22. Anyone heard a follow up on Jade's issue? The only thing I heard was what she told Larry King on her show that one neighbor came up to her and apologized for his/her past behavior.

    ONE neighbor.

    I bet the rest of them are HEATED that she put their ish on blast. How much you all wanna bet that they're gonna freeze her out after this (because to them, the only choices are to heap racist abuse onto her or cut her out if she won't let them)? I haven't heard SHIT about how her husband took her complaint or if he's doing shit to remedy the situation. I'm not holding my breath though and especially not for Jade following through and making sure HE follows through.

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  23. @Witchsistah,

    Oh you know how that's about to play out with the neighbors freezing her out:

    "Well we don't want to say anything that might offend you" or "I'm sorry for being honest and I can't be PC all the time."

    They're probably also going to accuse Jade of projecting her marital problems on the neighbors.

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  24. Anyone heard a follow up on Jade's issue?

    Girl, you know I stopped paying attention to this woman. Bitch makes my flesh crawl. I have a feeling she's never divorcing that man.

    So now their neighbors are racist too? His friends, family, and their neighbors? What the hell is Nita doing? What the hell is Nita doing?

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  25. @Neo prodigy,

    That was EXACTLY what I had in mind when I wrote about them folks freezing Jade out. And, yup, that is the exact rationale they'll use.

    Basically, they're presenting her with a choice "Either let us attack you racially with you taking it like the lil, nigger bitch you are or we'll basically passively disown you by treating you as a non-entity."

    And honestly, they'll act more a fool if they know her husband doesn't have her back. All the times I've heard of a White husband letting his family know he ain't down for no racist bullshit regarding his PoC wife and kids, no [more] racist shit has popped off. Especially if he's stern about it and not wishy-washy ("Could you guys, yanno, turn it down a lil?"). My husband has done it, and so have many other White husbands. But they did it in a way that let their loved ones know they ain't standing for their bullshit and TRY and test that shit with them and see what happens. Once the family sees dude is CONCRETELY in his wife's [and kids']corner , especially if they know dude will roll the fuck out of their lives if they don't get it, they suddenly figure out how to behave.

    But fuck it, if you don't even have your HUSBAND's support and respect why should THEY respect you?

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  26. Do not read the comments thread at Abagond. Repeat: DO NOT READ THE COMMENTS THREAD AT ABAGOND!!

    It is an attempt by White people to cash in on giving Black folks high blood pressure so we die early.

    This is your final warning: Do Not Read The Comments At Abagond.

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  27. It is an attempt by White people to cash in on giving Black folks high blood pressure so we die early.

    Heheheheheh - I figured as much.

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  28. Wow I agree with what a lot of you said and don't have that much to add. That woman needs to have a serious talk with her husband and herself.

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  29. Clearly, she married a white guy who doesn't think she's worth protecting.

    This is it right here, summed up in one neat, little sentence.

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  30. Clearly, she married a white guy who doesn't think she's worth protecting.

    He better be glad she ain't James Jones' daughter.

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  31. My god...at work yesterday me and a black coworker were talking about Ms. Nita, and she didn't realize Nita is black - she refused to believe it the first time this shit went down. She didn't understand how Nita can be so spineless.

    *shrug* What I can I say - there be some spineless bitches in this world....

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  32. Ankhesen,

    *sigh* We've been through this a million times. Getting to work for massa in the Big House is what matters most in life.

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