Draptoresponsia Case Study #12: Shattered Pedestal

Patient #0012

Patient 0012 was referred to a medical board by an appalled clinician.  The patient had scribbled a troubling experience in her diary entitled, "Shocked by British men's choice..what is WRONG WITH MEN IN EUROPE? Confused..?" and submitted it for general review.
I'm a college student here in the U.S and this summer I did the "studying abroad" like most universities have. There were about 45 students this summer from the business school in my University.

I'm 23 years and I consider myself a good looking girl because I take care of myself. I do not look down on others or races. I'm obvious white, 115 pounds, 5"5" tall, 36 bust. In college i have a lot of guys going after me and my friends.
Patient begins by establishing she is, in fact, racist...("I do not look down on others or races" is a common racist foreshadowing).  The patient is aware of her privilege, and sounds proud of it ("I'm obvious white, 115 pounds, 5"5" tall, 36 bust. In college i have a lot of guys going after me and my friends").
STUDY ABROAD SUMMER:

This summer the study abroad was in london. We were so excited about being in london and meeting good looking british guys. To our surprise, we found that european men preferred to go after black women. This was shocking and such an eye opener to me and my white girl friends.

We went to pubs, clubs, restaurants. lounges and some other fancy places. It was the same. They bought drinks for them. Thats not to say that white men did not hit on white girls just that seemed to be on equal grounds. Which is good but surprising because this does not usually happen in america.
The patient basically re-establishes that she's racist...in case her readers have already forgotten.  She is uncomfortable with an "egalitarian" setting, apparently needing a headstart, a safety net, and a lifeline at all times.  Patient speaks out both sides of her mouth, saying she is "shocked" men would be attracted to black women, but figures it's a good thing, even though her title explicitly asks what's wrong with European men for liking black women.
OUR GROUP:

our group of girls had 3 white girls and 2 African American girls. I'm not racist. Even in school this is our usual circle of friends. We travelled together in Europe and every where else.

WHAT HAPPENED:

Every time we went out, the british white guys would mostly be after the African American girls. My African American girls are also pretty. It's just that it shocked us the white American girls. We thought, we would be the first pick. I guess we are used to the white American guys not appraoching black girls, I thought it would be the same there.

LEARNING EXPERIENCE:

I found that in europe a white girl is not the most wanted girl. I learned tthat white and black girls have equal chances when it comes to men there. We found that there are many white men and black women couples in the U.K as there are black men and white women couples. Unlike in the U.S where there much more blcak men and white women couples compared to white men and black women couples

By the time we went out for the 4th times, we the white girls knew it was fair game for the men for both black and white girls.

I WAS HURT NOT because I'm white but because there were some guy there that i would have liked to have spent some time with but instead they chose to get to know an African America girl. I would have felt the same way had they chosen an other white girl over me
Patient continues to brazenly speak out both sides of her mouth, much like in the manner of Patient 0011.  She has black "friends" (see The Corner) and is not a racist but she assumed she and her white friends would automatically be "first pick".  In essence, like most typically I-swear-I'm-not-a-racist whites, she claims to call black women her "friends", but doesn't respect them, sees them as inferior, and gets upset when men tend to disagree with her assessment.
CONCLUSION:

Not all but from what we experienced we learned that european men view women of all races in the same way or view black women in better light than white american men. This happened when we went to France, Ireland, Scotland, Switerland, Italy and Germany.

Bare in mind that there are a lot black british people in the U.K. I have lived with black people for as long as we have.

I had a good time though. I learned a lot about other people and culture.

MY QUESTION:

Why is it different here. In america, i'm a 100% certain that if I were to walk in a place with only white men and I walked in with some African American girls that a white man would appraoch a black woman at least not in public or in front of a white girl.

What makes a white american man different from a white european man?

WE LEARNED THAT RACE DOES NOT SHAPE BEHAVIOR BUT CULTURE DOES.
Final Diagnosis

Patient 0012 didn't learn a damn thing in Europe, contrary to her doublespeak-ridden epilogue.  She felt wronged and cheated by men choosing black women over her, as though she were robbed of her "rightful place".  And though she will not confess this online (so as to continue her "I'm-not-a-racist" facade), she probably dumped her black friends once they returned to the US.

As to possible reasons for her rejection, the on-call clinician who responded to her immediately (see below her original babbling), said it best: "You say you're not racist but then you go on to say that you were 'shocked' by men treating women of all races equally and you ask 'what's wrong' with them as if there was something incorrect in not choosing white girls first...Knowing British men all too well, they were probably put off by out dated opinions and preferred the less 'entitled' presence put off by your non-white friends."

Clinician should've probably brought up Patient 0012's abominable written language skills and reminded her she's supposed to be a woman in college.  Perhaps her verbal skills are also desperately lacking, hence repeated rejection at the bar.

Patient 0012's case confirms observations in what will now be referred to as Mira's Law: White Europeans really don't like white Americans.  The patient's draptoresponsic arrogance and narcissistic sense of entitlement prevented her from anticipating this.  People without privilege, however, often have the ability to smell a setup miles away.

The patient's severe anxiety over being placed on equal footing with POC and strictly being judged on what she can bring to the table aside for her skintone, is a draptoresponsic reaction which confirms the First, Second, and Fourth Tenets of Jensen's Law.

Finally, the patient's overall attitude and perception pertaining to POC confirms all Five Walls of white racism observed in Abagond's Law.

Suggested Treatment

Patient 0012 should be dropped from her pedestal head-first.  When her skull cracks open against the pavement, some sense will hopefully creep its way in.

Comments

  1. I got a law! :)

    Now... I must admit, my first thought here was: this gotta be a joke. It's gotta be. It's way too simple, it's a walking and talking stereotype.

    Unfortunately, it looks like the girl is for real.

    I don't even want to talk about her "I'm not racist, but..." sentences written in the middle of very racist paragraphs.

    Now, the title of her post is interesting. She didn't say "why are European men different"- she said: what's WRONG with them. Wrong? As if they were all impotent or interested in highly unnatural sex, like sex with animals or something (sorry for the ugly analogy, but that's the vibe I'm getting). She obviously find male interest in black women unnatural.

    Now, please note that European men didn't ignore her and her white friends, they didn't offend them or treat them like garbage- they simply showed interest in black girls first. Or perhaps they simply showed equal interest. This thing was obviously way too much to our precious little princess here.

    Well, this girl needs to learn that, in order to make a man interested in her, she needs to have something other than her white skin.

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  2. LMAO! Barbie got knocked off her perch. Boo muthafuckin' hoo. The privilege falling from her lips came as no surprise.

    This is the disservice White Men have done to White Women in America. She has been set up since birth to measure herself against "lesser others".

    Her whole identity and sense of self worth is based upon who she is NOT. Talk about a fragile ego.

    WTF was up with the "My African American Girls" nonsense? What kind of Miss Anne-these-chicks- are-my-property-stmt was that?

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  3. I got a law! :)

    Of course you get a law!

    my first thought here was: this gotta be a joke. It's gotta be. It's way too simple, it's a walking and talking stereotype.

    *shakes head* Right there with you.

    Now, please note that European men didn't ignore her and her white friends, they didn't offend them or treat them like garbage

    Of course not. But like you said, being "white" is not that a big deal to Europeans; they pay attention to other factors. We don't do much of that in America.

    This is like with that coworker of mine that I told you about, who left Europe feeling ashamed of being American. I wonder what specifically happened to make her feel like this. I'd ask her if she wasn't in the Corner, but I can't stand talking/listening to her ass.

    The same must've been with this bitch and her white American friends. Notice how she makes it all about "them" - she never, ever pauses to ask herself what she could've done wrong. Someone needs to tell her that when it happens multiple in a row, it's called a "pattern" and she might want to check that out.

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  4. Co-sign on all of the above. I, too, found it amusing that this college girl (who may very well be in college to find a husband first and get some random degree second) has poor grammar skills.

    This sort of attitude, as we all know, is prevalent in most White American girls her age (and not necessarily *her* age). I bet she hightailed out of Europe as fast as she could, and yes, cut loose her Black girlfriends the moment she stepped on American soil. This is all too commonplace.

    Addition to the suggested treatment: Extended stay in Europe.

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  5. Addition to the suggested treatment: Extended stay in Europe.

    Quit synchin' with me.

    My initial suggested treatment was: "Permanent placement in London."

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  6. Not surprised6/4/10, 11:31 PM

    She steady contradicts herself when she constantly brings up the race of her two Black friends, she sounds jealous and ignorant. The word "shocked" is enough, shes in denial, not surprised.

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  7. Jesus fucking christ REAlly. What's wrong with them? What is wrong with them? There must be something wrong with them because they approach Black women. WOW

    I don't know how to even answer that christ. Can someone get in contact with that....person and direct her to some common sense. Wow I thought I have heard it all but damn.

    Moi, you post kill me. LOL

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  8. "My African American girls..."

    So, did she like buy these black women somewhere?

    That line alone sums up the entire problem with this person's "non-racist" post.

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  9. well this post nicely demonstrates what all the comments in the Uhura post were saying:

    when white women aren't the #1 choice, they don't like it. So they make Uhura whiter so that it's easier to understand why a white man would love her. Or, they do what this gal does: Keep wondering why the hell their racist asses were left in the dirt.

    Yeah right this bitch is "not racist" - maybe your two african american "girls" (how nice! she managed to be condescending AND racist!) were just hotter and more friendly than you were. Maybe the only thing wrong with European men is that they got sense.

    I can smell her entitlement even from way over here in the wang of America.

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  10. Another thing we have to pay attention to here is the white American tendency to not do research about how they are actually perceived by others. POC already know that one has to know what they're walking into to ensure their safety, but white Americans feel they can just blithely skip through the world without paying attention. This why they always seem to wind up getting "shocked" whenever they go somewhere and don't get the treatment they expect [read: royal treatment].

    Quite franktly, I'm a little surprised she didn't just pass European men off as simply being "jealous" of her (a classic draptoresponsic plan B).

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  11. lol dis bitch

    The Black women weren't even being treated better, just as equals, and that was so mind-blowing to her, that her darkie Black friends could be considered an equal rival for a White man's affections. She says she would be just as upset if a White girl 'usurped' her, yet the entire post is 'lol why do eurpean white men like black gilrs? Even her response to the answer is infuriating. "wrong answer" indeed.

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  12. Notice how she made a point of mentioning:
    1. White American men are more likely to approach White American women
    2. Black men are more likely to be in interracial relationships with White Women than Black women with White men

    which means that in her worldview it is "normal and natural" to prefer White women, and it is "normal and natural" for male POC to prefer white women, because EVERYONE prefers white women

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  13. @Rochelle - I noticed that too - "wrong answer"?!

    If the idiot thinks she knows the right answer, why ask the question in the first place? Prob. to get some coddling and assurance that yes, all round the world, white women are top. Sheesh.

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  14. Holy.shit. something remarkably scary in all of this isn't just in what she said, but that she felt this was such common knowledge that she could go onto a public forum and lay out this embarrassing tale with a straight face. Like she was seriously waiting for someone to come along with a biological or scientific reason for why her friends were more attractive than she was. Like someone would remind her that her trip was through a parallel universe and that she shouldn't fret.

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  15. Prob. to get some coddling and assurance that yes, all round the world, white women are top.

    Like someone would remind her that her trip was through a parallel universe and that she shouldn't fret.

    Ah...White Woman's Tears. Good thing no one came a-runnin' for her.

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  16. which means that in her worldview it is "normal and natural" to prefer White women, and it is "normal and natural" for male POC to prefer white women, because EVERYONE prefers white women

    ... And there must be something "wrong" with those who don't.

    On a sidenote, "white woman's tears" is an interesting phenomenon.

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  17. Anne said she would push Ms. I'm Not Racist But (INRB) off that pedestal and collect the WWTs for you.

    For the low cost of $49.95.

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  18. @ RVC Bard

    *shakes head*

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  19. Moi,

    I referenced this post at the end of one of mine on a similar topic--I'd appreciate your (always insightful) feedback. :-)

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  20. I have seen this before on a website and my first instinct was it was a joke. The author was to brazen in her contradictions for this to be serious. However, the more I think of it the more plausible it seems. I was just reading a post from an Asian American man about how he flirted with a white American female. The female left her phone at the bar, so the man decided to contact her so he could return it. Once contacted this white American "princess" acted as if she did not know this man from Jack, despite flirting, touching and cuddling with him the night before. this man knew immediately this was white American "princess" behavior and blasted the woman for it. She wanted to get her phone without so much as going to get coffee with this man. Needless to say, her phone is history.

    The more I hear about drapto behavior the more believable incidents like the one you wrote become.

    Anyways I love the series.

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  21. @ Y

    Thanks for stopping by. Can you get me a link to the story you told?

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  22. The most essential phrase of this article is, "But I still had fun, though". Like because black girls (who her own admition were pretty) were treated equally, she endured and didn't let it spoil her fun.

    I always wondered how white women would react if roles were reversed. This was VERY interesting!

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  23. As a black woman this mentality saddens and frustrates me. I remember posting on communities like ONTD and seeing fans hate on women they decided were less attractive than themselves or, if the celebrities were coupled, their partners. They decide that the woman isn't good enough when they know nothing about either individual. When I see this kind of competitiveness all I think think is, isn't it far more liberating and comforting to know that EVERYONE has a chance at love? Isn't it wonderful to know that there are matches out there for all of us rather than the few that are thought of as conventionally beautiful. Isn't it easier to live in a world where each of us are worthy of love regardless of race, size, etc?

    Why then would this woman and others opt to live in a world where their self-esteem, their chosenness comes at the expense of so many others and love is treated as a zero sum game, like it's some scarce, finite resource that we have to go to war over? Why do some people feel like someone else has to lose in order for them to win? What's lacking inside of themselves?


    I love your blog by the way.

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  24. Victoria,

    She was venting and hoping that someone will say something to reassure her or her ego. Something like, "European men are only after sex and feel like the black girls would be an easier conquest, that's why they received the attention". Or that they have poor taste in women or American men are more selective.

    Those poor black girls probably endured "vibes" the entire trip and when they finally arrived to the good US, she probably really acted out.

    islandgirl

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  25. Y,

    I'm curious to read that story as well. If it's the one I think it is, I wouldn't put much stock in that guy. He thought that a woman talking to him for 10 minutes was tantamount to a sexual offer and basically tried to solicit her the next day. He seems like your average creepster to me. I didn't know he was Asian until you just said it though. (Apologies if we are referencing two different people.)

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  26. This story is too typical. I've had white women act all "shocked and surprised" that my SO prefers me and not them.

    At first I thought this "white girl pedestal" was blown out of proportion, but white women do indeed seem to have a sense that they are miles ahead of any black women, no matter how attractive.

    @ thelady

    "Notice how she made a point of mentioning:
    1. White American men are more likely to approach White American women
    2. Black men are more likely to be in interracial relationships with White Women than Black women with White men

    which means that in her worldview it is "normal and natural" to prefer White women, and it is "normal and natural" for male POC to prefer white women, because EVERYONE prefers white women.


    Exactly. And notice that she doesn't ask "what's wrong" with the black men who show interest in a white woman.

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  27. Natasha,

    At first I thought this "white girl pedestal" was blown out of proportion, but white women do indeed seem to have a sense that they are miles ahead of any black women, no matter how attractive.

    Me too--I thought this kind of thinking was unique to generally bitter/jealous girls (the type who always have something negative to say about other women, especially when it comes to competition over men). Then I noticed how some White girls I knew--the same ones who would say how beautiful I was and how it made sense that such-and-such Black guy liked me--completely change their tune when it was such-and such White guy. All that time I guess I wasn't "beautiful" enough for White men in their eyes.

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  28. Suggested Treatment

    Patient 0012 should be dropped from her pedestal head-first. When her skull cracks open against the pavement, some sense will hopefully creep its way in.


    Yes, THIS!

    Sometimes when I read these articles I feel so hopelessly out of the game because apparently the Caucasian people in my life are so above and beyond the fray, it's unreal. I'm still sticking to the story that they're this way because they're European, mostly Germans and Poles. My buddies would most likely go off on a man if he didn't recognize *me.*

    Thank the Gods, fools such as this patient will never be able to say that I am one of their African-American friends.

    Do you want to know what has my buddies riled these days, especially the Germans? For the life of them, they can't figure out why the American people blame President Obama (they would so elect him Chancellor) for the BP Oil platform explosion and chaos.

    For them, it's like blaming Chancellor Angela Merkel if Germany loses in the first round of the world cup.

    I know this is a bit off-topic, but the difference between a decent Caucasian person from any other country and an American "white" person is often astronomical. At least to me.

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    1. Amen Hateya! I have some really good German friends who visibly get very upset when people treat me with even the slightest hint of prejudice/racism and tend to be a lot more open minded and accepting. From my own personal experience White Europeans for the most part operate on a whole other level to white people from the USA, and it's baffling as to why that is. Maybe it's because they weren't actively taught as a society to hate POC like they did with the segregation laws in the US? I really don't know

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  29. Hey Moi

    http://dissention.wordpress.com/2010/06/06/the-saga-of-lisa-d/

    Jasmin,

    Yes its probably the man you where thinking about. After reading a second time it seemed like he was joking about the sex. Even if he wasnt his thinking she would hook up with him isnt too far-fetched considering her behavior. Now, I know that doesnt mean she shouldnt have sex with him but this chick's behavior was all to familiar. I have had similar happen to me where I would be getting along just fin with a WAP (white American "prince/princess") only to have them behave as if they had never met me. AD's circumstances seem shady but I can relate to where he is coming from.

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  30. Sometimes when I read these articles I feel so hopelessly out of the game because apparently the Caucasian people in my life are so above and beyond the fray, it's unreal. I'm still sticking to the story that they're this way because they're European

    And in so doing, you support Mira's Law.

    @ Y

    Thanks for the link!

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  31. @Jasmin

    All that time I guess I wasn't "beautiful" enough for White men in their eyes.

    I can't believe they're that petty, that pathetic. If they truly are the most beautiful things some god or another created, then why do they go through such great lengths to try to hold other women back. If we're not the competition, in their minds, then what the hell is the problem?

    Jasmin, I hope you no longer need to lay eyes on those skanks.

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  32. Natasha W said, "At first I thought this "white girl pedestal" was blown out of proportion, but white women do indeed seem to have a sense that they are miles ahead of any black women, no matter how attractive."

    Nope, this is often evidenced in comments where WP say "She's a pretty black woman" or "She's pretty for a black girl." Those simple comments that roll right out of WP's mouths without thinking anything of it. That division alone says "you're attractive...in your separate but almost equal way" and "white = normal, everything else is a variance of the norm."

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  33. Y,

    The first time I read it, he just seemed masochistic, but it wasn't until the second time that I noticed the line about chatting for "10 minutes before her friend pulled her away". That's hardly the intimate connection he tried to make it out to be and pretty much reeks of desperation to me, plus attempted sexual coercion, joking or not, is just gross.

    I agree with the point you're making, I just don't think he's a good example of it.

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  34. Hateya,

    It just made me realize that Black women (and probably others) are like dolls to some White women. We might just have nice lips, or nice bodies, or nice hair, but we definitely aren't as nice as "the real thing".

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  35. ...I just don't think he's a good example of it.

    Nor do I. Reading the Facebook segment made my flesh crawl.

    Now I have to do a post before men of color humiliate themselves, and ultimately us all.

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  36. ...then why do they go through such great lengths to try to hold other women back. If we're not the competition, in their minds, then what the hell is the problem?

    'Tis the $64,000 question.

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  37. Jasmin,

    It just made me realize that Black women (and probably others) are like dolls to some White women. We might just have nice lips, or nice bodies, or nice hair, but we definitely aren't as nice as "the real thing".

    You're right about this! White women react this way about beautiful black women. If a black woman is "ugly", then she's an acceptable company and "no threat". But if she's beautiful, she is dehumanized by the "doll treatment", meaning, she is seen as "aww, cuuute!" being , like a doll or acute animal (kitten or something). The features that white women find "adorable" on them are praised, but it's still dehumanization straight away.

    And fear not, the first time this aww, cute black girl gets all guys in the room interested in her she's not seen as cute and friendly and acceptable anymore.

    The same thing, I think, can be said for "aww, cute!" black/biracial babies stereotype. Now, all babies are cute, but I think you know what I'm talking about.

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  38. Damn...was looking at the # of comments on this post...wow. This topic really struck a nerve!

    Awesome discussion, ladies!

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  39. @Jasmin -It just made me realize that Black women (and probably others) are like dolls to some White women. We might just have nice lips, or nice bodies, or nice hair, but we definitely aren't as nice as "the real thing".

    Oh, I see. They probably think they can pack us away in a box when they feel threatened, too. Sorry. The cat's out of the bag. Men, especially non-American Caucasian ones recognize beautiful, talented, smart and intellectually curious women when they see them. A majority of them would never settle for some harlot just because Hollywood movies have showcased a certain type. Only the fools buy into that now.

    This is why I'll pounce on any black man who berates black women and then show up with some acne infested, barefoot, nasty and illiterate "white" bitch and proclaim her better. I don't care if a man wants to make a different choice, but he doesn't have the right to try to destroy what's left of a black woman's self-esteem in the process.

    My mother's best friend's boyfriend of six years left her for a woman like this. He proclaimed that he was moving up now that he had a "white" woman to take care of him. Yep, she took care of him all the way to the grave when she gave him acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS).

    Poetic justice?

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  40. @Victoria

    Nope, this is often evidenced in comments where WP say "She's a pretty black woman" or "She's pretty for a black girl." Those simple comments that roll right out of WP's mouths without thinking anything of it. That division alone says "you're attractive...in your separate but almost equal way" and "white = normal, everything else is a variance of the norm."

    Or how about the, "I'm not usually attracted to black men/women, but [fill-in-the-blank celebrity] is hot." As if the physical proof of said hotness is not "official" without their seal of approval.

    Why do they always have to qualify who they're not usually attracted to before they'll say who they are attracted to...esp. when they're talking to a black person? I can't say that I've never heard a black person say the same thing concerning WP, but it's never been in mixed company (no pun intended). It's like the WP is going out of her way (for me, it's always been a woman) to let POC know, "I'm not usually attracted to your kind, but in this one case, I'm going to make an exception." That always offends me.

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  41. @ cinnamon,

    "I'm not usually attracted to your kind, but in this one case, I'm going to make an exception." That always offends me.

    And it always makes my flesh crawl.

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  42. @ Jasmin, Moi

    Yeah DA wasnt the best example I suppose.

    But if she's beautiful, she is dehumanized by the "doll treatment", meaning, she is seen as "aww, cuuute!" being , like a doll or acute animal (kitten or something). The features that white women find "adorable" on them are praised, but it's still dehumanization straight away.

    Yeah I have heard WP say that they only find black people "attractive" in the same way they would find a small animal or pretty flower. Basically saying we are attractive as inanimate objects but not as human beings.

    My mother's best friend's boyfriend of six years left her for a woman like this. He proclaimed that he was moving up now that he had a "white" woman to take care of him. Yep, she took care of him all the way to the grave when she gave him acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS).

    Sick and Sad

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  43. Yeah I have heard WP say that they only find black people "attractive" in the same way they would find a small animal or pretty flower. Basically saying we are attractive as inanimate objects but not as human beings.

    And the worst of all, they believe they are giving you a compliment!

    Quick check: if she (your supposed "friend") is surprised by any man who find you attractive as a woman, it's obvious what's going on.

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  44. OMFG. I just... I don't even...

    All I can say is: you bet your ass she dropped her two African American girls once back in the USofA— those bitches betrayed her— and forgot their place, by god!!— when they went ahead of her in line! When those poor mixed-up European men paid them attention ahead-of/instead-of Miss Thing, they surely knew that they were supposed to help the Universe realign by stepping aside. I mean, gah! What is the world coming to when a barely-literate white girl with a 36 bust can't get some— sorry, all the love, literally everyfuckingwhere she goes?!

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  45. Wow. This is too funny. I've taken notice of the white girl pedestal on more than one occasion and I find it absolutely hilarious when it gets knocked out from underneath them. Its not just a white girl pedestal unfortunately, most women who aren't dark skinned suffer from this condition to some degree. Its unfortunate that this woman will probably never really get just how messed up her attitude is. I think your suggested treatment is brilliant though!

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  46. I have an example of this from something i watched yesterday:
    http://www.hulu.com/watch/177248/dating-in-the-dark-episode-6

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  47. @ Chizzy D

    I hate shows like this, so I just skipped to the end. I wish Khaleel had a little more confidence in herself. Her face fell and she looked so wounded every time Kayla opened her mouth? But I have to admit I was amused at how Kayla kept praying for that guy not to leave with Khaleel. She didn't talk about him at all; she just kept talking about Khaleel and basically not wanting to lose to her.

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  48. @Ankheden...Kayla actually said something like this: "When he sees me vs. her, im SURE he will pick me." Like there is no way he will pick her when he finally sees what she looks like.
    Anyway watching that and reading this yesterday made me laugh.

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  49. @ Chizzy D

    Dear God - I noticed that. All she kept saying was, once he saw her, he would forget all about Khaleel.

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  50. http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ljs4fnGvzW1qfy2kdo1_500.gif

    Seeing this just reminds me of so many topics on this blog. I am not surprised that on tumblr it was reblogged by many white girls and women saying how they would do the same thing, but I was surprised that I did not see, many if any black women objecting to this. Seriously, hands off the hair, hands off PERIOD.

    This is from Rock of Love Charm School, and of course non of these women are classy or adult-acting, but still. Laying hands just to be a jerk in this instance... pssh.

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  51. and you know what it's interesting that you would bring this quote up. it's a passive aggressive attack on Black women, the funny thing is you'll find posts all over the internet by SOME white women who are in interracial relationships with Black men and some will tell you that Black women are the ones against interracial relationships and that Black women are the main ones hating. There is a post about it on this BWE website: http://www.dawnali.com/lovinmysistas/index.php?topic=7639.msg47588#msg47588

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  52. This story reminds me about something I experienced about 1 year and a half ago.
    I'm a 22-year-old French black girl (born and raised in France) and I've lived in California
    to attend college.

    I had another French girlfriend from Arabic descent and she looked like a Latina (mestiza).
    One night, we decided to go out and since she was living in an International Student Residence (a kind of hostel) she brought a friend of hers; a German girl - the typical blond, blue-eyed chick.
    I also brought a friend of mine that night; a white American girl - she was a cute brunette.

    So the four of us finally went to the bar, we were drinking, dancing and having fun when a black guy
    approached me. I danced with him, he took my number.

    After the bar, the four of us were walking home when a black guy in the street was looking hard at me and I wasn't even aware of that before my French friend told me in total shock: "The way this black guy is looking at you! Black men in America SEEM to prefer Black women, in France, they (Black men) usually prefer Blondes."

    -It's worth noting that this French girl, even though she looks like a Latina, was a FAKE blonde.
    -It's also worth noting that she dated a Black guy in her past.

    What shocked me is that she had the nerve to believe most black guys worldwide would actually prefer non-black women over their own women. I think she watched way too TV and bought the Myth.

    But I also think she was bitter because she just had a brutal reality check at the bar when the cute black guy CHOSE to approach me - an UNMIXED, full-blooded black girl - over her, her blond friend and my brunette friend.

    Like the girl in your post, my French friend had the Shattered Pedestal Syndrome. These girls really have a superiority complex and they do BELIEVE that light skin and straight hair is enough to make them the first choice of ANY man walking this Earth.
    Poor girls, I actually feel sorry for them, it's about all they can bring to the table. Dduuuhhhh!!!!!

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    1. Thanks for sharing! What's your name?

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    2. I'm Déborah :).
      PS, I love your blog. Greetings from Paris!

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    3. Ohh another French girl (like me) :) Welcome! Yeah, I think your friend based her view on French TV where mixed couples usually (99% of the time) means black man + white girl. But the thing is that reality is much more diverse than that.

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